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Love me, even though I can’t love you back.

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I was meditating this morning and as I was just about to conclude, I heard a friend’s voice (in my mind) say to me: “Love me, even though I can’t love you back.”

This particular friend has been distant and aloof with me and it’s been a challenge to know how to be in relation to her.

And even though I’m not sure yet of what actions to take externally, her words helped me to remember to stay loving inside of myself, despite the discord that lies between us.

Her words also inspired the following blog post, that i thought I’d share with all of you.

Love me, even though I can’t love you back.

Sometimes in our lives there are people who choose not to love us or simply can’t love us (or be loving toward us), because of where they are at inside of themselves. Rather than take this personally and be offended and hurt, can we find the place in ourselves that can remain loving, even in the face of others anger or apathy or indifference or inconsiderate behaviour?

This is one of the great challenges set before each one of us, to learn to love those who can’t love us back.

In this crazy world of ours this is no easy task, and we are at best very imperfect at it. But if we are truly to open our hearts then we must aspire to love, not only those who love and approve of us, but also those who are cold, or angry, or arrogant, or aloof, or those who feel superior to us as well.

So, let this be your challenge today, to learn to keep your heart open even in the face of those who can’t love you back. This, of course, does not mean you need to put yourself in harms way, sometimes, its best to love others from afar.

Take a moment now and direct love towards someone who can’t love you back.

Affirm:

I love you.
I love you.

I value you.
I value you.

You are learning and you are growing.
Everyone is learning and everyone is growing.

I appreciate you.
I appreciate you.

I forgive you.
I forgive you.

I love you.
I love you.

Be aware of how this softens your heart. Be aware of how this shifts your energy.

Let this be your challenge today: to send love to someone who doesn’t treat you well or can’t (at this time) love you back.

As you grow in your ability to do this, your heart chakra will open and you will be able to manifest more of your best self.

After you have opened your heart you can ask: Given what is, what is the loving thing to do? You can listen deeply within and let your inner wisdom guide you in right relation.

Sometimes it is loving to love from afar and sometimes it is loving to love up close. Sometimes it is loving to say yes and sometimes it is loving to say no. Sometimes it is loving to give other people the space that they need. Sometimes it is loving to come close. Sometimes it is loving to give other people freedom to choose and not force our own will or desires on them. Sometimes its loving to value ourselves enough to walk away. Sometimes its loving to let other people just be. Sometimes its loving to ask for more. Sometimes its loving to ask for less. Sometimes its loving to challenge the status quo. Sometimes its loving to express and sometimes its loving to remain silent.

The individual attunement will vary. It is through deep listening that we will know how to best express the love that is in our hearts.

But for today, simply work on opening your heart chakra. Do this for yourself, so that you can be the best that you can be. Be aware of how this impacts your life and your manifestation.

Ask yourself:

What changes as you become a more loving person?
What percentage of your day can you stay in love?
Can you appreciate this adversary in your life for teaching you how to love in a deeper way?
What else can you appreciate about this person?
What else are you learning from this challenge?

You can simplify the affirmation I shared above by simply stating:

I love you.
I love you.
I love you.

You can silently say this to yourself and silently say it to others all day long.

Be aware of what impact this has on you and your relationships.

Some relationships may improve with this affirmation of love, and some, which are no longer appropriate for you, may find their good elsewhere. Sometimes nothing will change externally but your own internal environment will be transformed.

One thing we can say for sure, is that the affirmation, I love you, will raise your own vibration and help you to bring your best self forward more and more. Be aware of the far reaching impact this can have on your health, your relationships and on your own life as well.

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. We will be having our monthly free TRCB teleclass this Sunday, November 29th at 7 p.m. This is a great opportunity to join with a group for the purpose of balancing your chakras and bringing your best self forward more and more.

To join our call, simply call: 413-259-8048 at 6:55 or so, on Sunday evening. The lines will be muted, so all you need to do is sit back and relax and allow the opening meditation and TRCB healing to wash over you and bring you whatever healing and transformation you need at this time. Feel free to forward this email to a friend in need as well.

I look forward to joining you on the call!

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I deserve.

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I was at a party the other day and someone asked me a question about a mutual friend. I answered their question and then realized that I had said too much. It wasn’t a terribly big deal but still I felt badly. It was an honest mistake, but still a mistake nonetheless. If I had been more prepared for the question I would have said less.

I was thinking about this when I got home and felt badly about it. Again, it wasn’t the end of the world and in a sense I was being sort of hard on myself. I just said a little too much.

Anyway, in my time of feeling badly, a critical voice that I didn’t know was in me arose and said with great venom: “You don’t deserve goodness.”

What, I answered back, that is kind of a strong reaction isn’t it? (Trying to rationalize with my irritational self.) Yes, but still, you don’t deserve, it echoed back.

I felt, in that moment, that a part of my unconscious mind was revealing itself to me. Sort of rearing its ugly head in a moment of vulnerability.

I’m glad, however, that this happened.

They say that 90 percent of our mind is unconscious. Consciously, i would say I totally hold the attitude that I deserve, but clearly their was this voice deep within me that felt otherwise.

Its important to be aware of these unconscious voices in our heads because they affect our lives and our manifestation. What goodness might I be blocking because I have this hidden voice saying that I don’t deserve?

Once these voices come to the surface we can begin to work with them using affirmations, prayer, Tong Ren Chakra Balancing or other healing techniques.

For me, I wrote the following affirmation for myself and thought I’d share it here in case, from time to time, there is a voice within you that rises up to try to hold you down.

Here is to our collective liberation!

I deserve.

I deserve.
I deserve.

I deserve the goodness of the universe.
I deserve the goodness of the universe.

I deserve wealth.
I deserve love.
I deserve prosperity.
I deserve kindness.

I deserve.
I deserve.

I deserve and I am open to receive.
I deserve and I am open to receive.

I am open to receive the goodness of this universe.
I am open to receive the goodness of this universe.

We have all made mistakes.
No one is exempt.

We have all made mistakes and yet we still deserve.

So quiet that voice within that says I do not deserve.
Heal that voice within that blocks the goodness of the universe.

I heal that voice within and I open to receive.
I heal that voice within and I devote myself to service.

I open to the goodness of the universe.
I open to the goodness of the universe.

I open to greater power.
I open to greater love.
I open to great wealth.
I open to greater abundance.
I open to greater kindness.

I am a child of God and I deserve.
We all deserve healing.

Take a moment now and open to the goodness of the universe.

Open to a force of life that has your best interest at heart.
Open to a force of life that wants to bring you all that you need to heal.

Heal the voice within that says I don’t deserve.
Heal the voice within that blocks this goodness.

Know that you spirit and that you are good and
Know that everyone makes mistakes.

Be kind to yourself and open.
Be open and allow yourself to heal.

If there is a place within you that you are having trouble healing, ask for divine intervention now.

Help me spirit to know that I deserve the goodness of the universe.

Help me to heal the voice within me that says I do not deserve.

Help me to be open to your goodness more and more.

Affirm:

I am healing.
I am whole.
I am complete
I am a child of God and
I deserve.

~Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

Reread this affirmation and meditation frequently.

Have a good weekend everyone and remember that
regardless of the mistakes that we have made, we all deserve healing.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

A Plate of Compassion All Around

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Who am I to judge you?
Things aren’t always what they appear.

For today, I am filled with humility.
For today, I acknowledge that I too have made mistakes.

Some days I am embarrassed by these mistakes.
Some days I cringe when I think of something I did or said.

But these mistakes have given me a deep compassion for the human condition.

We are all flawed.
And at the same time we all have greatness within us.

And when I am tempted to judge another, I quietly reflect on all the times I’ve been out of balance too, all the times I’ve misread the energy, and instead of judgement I offer compassion.

I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is learning.
Everyone is growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is suffering.
Everyone has some burden they are carrying.

And so when I can find this place within me,
I offer compassion.

Some days this comes easy and other days its a challenge.
But for today, this compassion bubbles up within me.

We are all learning.
We are all growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a place of compassion all around.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Calling in Divine Intervention with TRCB

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Welcome to TRCB Tuesday.

Its been a while since I’ve posted a new video and I wanted to share one with you today. Today’s topic is Calling in Divine Intervention with TRCB. In this video I will be tapping on each of the seven chakras of the Tong Ren doll and repeating a chakra balancing affirmation. The focus will be on asking for assistance in coming into a deeper balance and bringing our best self forward more and more.

Today’s chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am open to divine intervention. I ask for divine intervention. I experience divine intervention.

Third eye: I ask for assistance in bringing the wisdom of my spirit forward.

Throat: I ask for assistance in bringing my power and confidence forward.

Heart: I ask for assistance in deepening my compassion for myself and others.

Solar Plexus: I ask for assistance in cultivating deeper acceptance of myself and others.

Identity: I ask for assistance in deepening my strength and I ask for assistance in deepening my sensitivity.

Base: I ask for assistance in deepening my disciplines of mind, body and spirit.

Take a moment now and ask for divine intervention, ask for what you need. There is a spiritual force of life that is working with all of us to manifest what we need, but this force of life does not want to interfere with free will choice and so we all need to learn to ask for assistance.

Ask that your wisdom become deeper. Ask for help in bringing forward your power and confidence. Ask for assistance in accepting yourself and in accepting others. Ask for deeper strength and deeper sensitivity. Ask for assistance in all aspects of your life. Ask for assistance as you go through your day.

Let this be your experiment this week. Experiment with asking for the assistance you need. Experiment with dialoging with a force of life greater than yourself. Experiment with seeing yourself as part o a powerful team and remembering that you never work alone.

There is a force of life that is working with you to manifest what you need and as you begin to dialogue with this force of life you will have greater access to it. And so let this be your experiment for the week to come. Ask for help. Ask for assistance, and communicate with a force of life that is greater than yourself and be aware of how this affects the quality of your week.

We don’t have to do this alone. We can call in greater support, greater wisdom, and greater opportunity. Practice this this week and see what transpires.

~Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. For more information about our TRCB group healing and meditation tele class that happens on the last Sunday of every month, please click on this link: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass/

Humble and Kind

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Hello Everyone,

I just got back from a folk concert last night. I went to listen to Lori Mckenna who is singer I first heard sing on the Oprah show many years ago. The highlight of the evening was a song she wrote for her children called: Humble and Kind.

(to listen to this beautiful song click here:
http://countrymusiclife.com/humble-and-kind-by-lori-mckenna-lorimckennama/).

It’s a song, as you might guess, about staying humble and kind, and saying thank you and please, and helping the next guy or gal in line when given the opportunity.

The song made me reflect on my own life and struggles, and the developing of humility.

You see, in my twenties I had several major episodes of anxiety that really brought me to my knees. When I recovered I remembered thinking that the anxiety and the pain that came with it, had softened me and burned away some of my arrogance, (i had an arrogant side back then.)

And then in my thirties I had some health problems that once again brought me to my knees. Once again, as I recovered and healed, I remember feeling that the experience had deepened me, and deepened my understanding of the human condition.

I thought that even though I would never wish that pain on myself or anyone else for that matter, I wasn’t sorry for the experience because it deepened my compassion and removed yet another layer of my arrogance. (arrogance is a slippery thing, it can slip right in when your not paying attention).

In fact, there was even a day recently were I actually was able to look back on those painful experiences and truly appreciate that they happened because they contributed to the person I am today.

So why do I share all of this? I guess it’s to say that no matter what you are going through right now, no matter how painful, there is always a silver lining, and although you may not fully see it right yet, there may come a day when you might even feel grateful that you had the experience, because despite all the pain, it brought you a gift that you otherwise wouldn’t have received.

And sometimes the gift that is brought is compassion for the human condition and for human suffering. Sometimes the gift is the burning away of your arrogance, leaving just the soft light of your soul to shine through. Sometimes the gift is that you find out that you are stronger than you thought and sometimes the gift is that you learn to ask for help.

Whatever it is that you are learning right now, may it deepen your humility and your kindness and your compassion for the human condition.

I’ve always liked the phrase, “Be kind. For everyone has a battle that they are fighting.”

And so, we are all human and learning and at the same time we are spirit and filled with great divinity. We are filled with humility, and we all have greatness in us too. And so let your humility be the doorway to your greatness. Let you compassion help you step even deeper into who you really are.

And then when you have learned what it is that you were meant to learn from your experience, you can turn around and help the next person in line.

Have a nice Sunday.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstien

P.S. As some of you know by now I am hosting my first ever Free TRCB Group Healing Teleclass. It’s going to be a great opportunity to balance your chakras and promote healing physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s also a great opportunity to be immersed in the healing energy of spirit and the healing energy that is generated when a group of people come together for the purpose of healing and transformation.

We have over 130 people signed up for the call so far, so its going to be a really powerful experience. If you’d like to join us, please click here: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass and then leave your name and email address. We will send you the information for the call 24 hours before the event.

I look forward to sharing TRCB with you in this live event.

Cultivating Greater Strength with TRCB

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Hello Everyone and welcome to Tong Ren Chakra Balancing (TRCB) Tuesday.

This week’s video will focus on using TRCB to cultivate greater strength. Dealing with our daily challenges and the general challenges of being on the planet requires that we connect with the strength that lies within the core of our being. Our spirit, our true self, that spark of divinity that lies within is strong, powerful and confident. For today, we will be balancing the chakras and reconnecting with the strength of our spirit so that we can more easily access this strength so that we can have the fortitude that we need to face our challenges.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I trust that spirit is working with me to manifest what I need.

Third eye: I am a wise decision maker.

Throat: I am powerful and powerful beings of light are all around me.

Heart: I am love and love is all around me.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with depth.

Identity: I am both sensitive and strong.

Base: I am spirit. I am eternal. I am infinite. I am safe.

And there you have it. Your seven TRCB affirmations for the week. Take time this week to listen to the video and to connect with the strength of your spirit. Take time to connect with the strength that lies at the core of your being. There is a place of strength that lies within each one of us and as we learn to connect with this place of strength we can begin to bring this strength forward more and more.

Have a good week everyone.

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Finding Deeper Peace with TRCB

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Hi there everyone,

I had a request this week to produce a video to assist with healing anxiety. There are many things that can help with anxiety such as eating well, exercise and the use of affirmations. For today’s video, we will focus on balancing the chakras to help us all hold a greater emotional balance and bring our best selves forward more and more.

Today’s chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I walk in light. I walk in light.

Third eye: I see clearly and I understand.

Throat: I am confident.

Heart: I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with simplicity.

Identity: I am steady.

Base: I am spirit. I am eternal. I am infinite. And I am safe.

And there you have it. This weeks chakra balancing affirmations. Work with these affirmations frequently through out the week to help assist you in staying calm and balanced a mist the many challenges of life. Also watch this weeks video to further assist in balancing the chakras and bringing your best self forward more and more.

Feel free to let me know in the comments below how this video impacts you.

Also, if you haven’t already be sure to subscribe to our you tube channel.

Have a great week.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Cultivating Deeper Appreciation with TRCB

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Hello Everyone,

I wanted to share a new healing video with you this week. In honor of Thanksgiving, todays topic is on appreciation.

Appreciation is a powerful principle that rapidly elevates your state of mind and your vibration, and can help move you to a whole new level.

Today we are going to focus on giving thanks in advance. Because your body doesn’t know the difference between a real and imagined event, when you give thanks for something that you are working to manifest, as if it is already here, you help to bring it into manifestation.

For example, if you give thanks that you are growing in your wisdom everyday, your body thinks that you are in fact growing in your wisdom everyday. This helps to bring forward the deep wisdom that lies at the core of your being. If you give thanks in advance for your increasing abundance and prosperity, again your body believes that you are growing more abundant and prosperous and begins to vibrate differently, this in turn helps to bring in greater abundance.

So for today, we are going to practice giving thanks in advance for the things that we are working on cultivating. In so doing, we are elevating our vibration, raising our frequency and beginning to put out a different vibration out into the world, this in turn impacts how we feel and how we manifest in our lives.

Try flooding yourself with a feeling of appreciation this week. Be aware of how this impacts not only how you feel but also how you manifest in your life.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I appreciate that divine favor follows me where ever I go.

Third eye: I appreciate that I am able to bring forward my inner wisdom more and more.

Throat: I appreciate that my confidence is growing everyday.

Heart: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to give and receive love.

Solar Plexus: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to accept myself and accept others.

Identity: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to respond in a balanced way in my life.

Base: I appreciate that my disciplines are improving everyday.

And there you have it. Your seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Work with these seven affirmations and practice feeling deep appreciation for all that you’d like to manifest in your life as if its already here now.

The practice of flooding yourself with appreciation will elevate your state, change your vibration and impact how you manifest in the world.

Try this for the next seven days and watch what happens! When you find yourself getting caught in more limited states of mind experiment with “changing the channel” and turning on appreciation instead.

For additional support be sure to watch todays powerful video on appreciation!

Thank you all for your attention, for reading my emails and for your love and support through out the year. I deeply appreciate you and I deeply appreciate the opportunity to be of service.

Have a lovely Thanksgiving and a nice holiday.

May we all grow in our ability to appreciate ourselves, each other and the many opportunities for growth and service that we experience through out our day.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Opening to possibility with TRCB

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Hi there everyone!

Its been a while since we’ve done a video so I wanted to share one with you today. Its a video on opening to greater possibility. When we narrow our focus too much we can become self centered and limited in our perceptions. We can also tend to focus on the worst case senarios of our lives and really freak ourselves out! In todays healing video we will focus on opening to the field of infinite possibilities and maintaining a more expanded awareness and point of view.

Here are this weeks chakra balancing affirmations:

Crown: I am open to the field of infinite possibility.

Third eye: I am open and I am wise.

Throat: I am open and I am expressive.

Heart: I am open and I am loving and I am generous.

Solar Plexus: I am open and I welcome all of life.

Identity: I am open and I stand in my convinctions.

Base: I am open and I am filled with humility.

And there you have it. Your seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Seek to experience greater openness this week while also embodying greater wisdom, clarity, expression, love, convinction and humility.

As you balance all seven chakras you will elevate your frequency and raise your vibration and positively impact your own life and the lives of others.

Have a good week.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. I am working hard to complete my TRCB book of affirmations! Stay tuned for more info.

P.S.S. I am also working on our first webinar. Stay tuned for more exciting information about that as well!

I accept you. (Part 2)

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Hello everyone and welcome to TRCB (Tong Ren Chakra Balancing) Tuesday where each week I will share with you a healing video for the purpose of helping all of us to balance our chakras and bring forward our best selves in every day life.

This week we will be focusing on accepting others. We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses and learning to accept these strengths and weaknesses is one of the keys to our actualization and to our finding the peace that we desire. When we are offended by every little thing, when we hold a grudge, when we are thrown out of balance by the imbalances of others we give our power away.

And so for today lets cultivate an attitude of acceptance so that we can step into our power, so that we can step into our love, our radiance, our compassion, and our strength. It takes inner strength and power to not be thrown by the imbalances that are all around us. It is easy to lose our balance. It takes fortitude to develop our own inner strength enough to be able to stay steady a mist the everyday imbalances that we encounter. And so for today, lets work on finding our own inner strength, our own inner power and our own inner fortitude so that we are not so easily offended and instead can offer others the compassion and acceptance that is so needed in our world.

Acceptance, of course, is just the first step. Once we have accepted we can ask: Given what is, what am I to do? Sometimes in acceptance we move closer and sometimes in acceptance we move further away. Sometimes in acceptance we express ourselves and sometimes we remain silent. Sometimes we say yes and sometimes we say no. The individual attunement will vary. But the first step is to accept ourselves and accept others and step into our full power, our full strength, our full balance, and our full potential in every day life.

And so seek to be the best that you can be. Do not worry about how others are behaving. At the end of your life, it is your behaviour that you will need to account for. And so focus on yourself. And focusing on becoming the best version of you. It is easy to loose focus and focus on “them”, to focus on what they are doing or not doing, how they have misbehaved. Instead of focusing on the imbalances of others learn to work on bringing your best self forward.

How do you best respond to the imbalances that you encounter every day? Can you step into your own inner power enough to not be so thrown by the imbalances around you. Can you find your own inner strength enough to not take offense? Can you access your compassion so that you can be a true being of light and healing upon the earth?

It is here that your work lies. Again do not be so concerned about the imbalances of others. Instead seek to bring your best self forward more and more and you shall be successful.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am one with all of life.

Third eye: I understand.

Throat: I am filled with the power of spirit. I am a powerful being of light.

Heart: I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar Plexus: I accept you. I accept you. I accept you.

Identity: I am both sensitive and strong.

Base: I am filled with humility. I am enough as I am.

And there you have it. You seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. You may want to pick one affirmations and make it your affirmation for the day or the week. Work with these affirmations frequently and allow them to assist you in bringing your best self forward more and more.

See the challenges in the week ahead as a test in your ability to hold your balance and bring your best self forward. Do not be discouraged if you do not pass all of your tests. We are here on the earth learning to bring our best self forward and this is a process. Allow yourself the space to learn and grow and give others the space they need to learn and grow. Little by lithe as you continue to practice and aspire to find this inner balance and strength you will bring more of your true self forward.

Practice daily for no effort is in vain. Practice daily and model a new way of being. Practice daily and be a force of healing and light upon the earth. Accept yourself, accept others and step into your true power, true strength, true wisdom, true understand, true acceptance, and true love. Practice daily and bring your best self forward more and more.

Have a great week.

Hayley Mermelstein

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