Make room for the new

“Do not move on to 2017 without letting go of something significant from 2016, an old idea, label, habit, fear, concern of ego. Let go to free up the white space for something new to enter.” Brendon Burchard.

It is said that nature abhors a vacuum, and that as we let go of worn out conditions, situations, attitudes and even clothing, that we create space for something new to be born.

What will you be letting go of this year as we wind down 2016 and what would you like to be born in its place as we enter this next cycle?

This is a question that we can all contemplate as we begin a new year of growth, service and enjoyment.

It is on this note, that I thought I’d share a poem that I wrote a while back, as I was working on letting go of a friendship in order to make room for something new.

Make room for the new.

And for a long time, it hurt when I bumped into a mutual friend of ours and she ignored me, or worse yet, glared.

And for a long time, I felt pain when I was not invited to that movie or that party.

What had you said about me that caused such hostility and rejection, I would wonder.

And for a long time, I wanted so badly to be included in that group that now shuns me.

And for a long time, I thought of you and felt pain.

And for a long time, I suffered.

I suffered until a friend said: Who cares?

Who cares that they reject you?
Who cares that you are not included?
Who cares that this friend left your life?

Let her go. Let them go.

Don’t hold such scarcity in your relationships or in your life.

There are true friend for you out there.
There are people who value and cherish you.
There are people who will see the true you and feel bonded and connected to you.

Trust this.

Let go and make room in your heart for the new.

Clear out the old.

Clear it out.
Let it go.

Make room for new friends.
Make room for new love.
Make room for new abundance.
Make room for all the glory that is meant for you.

Let what wants to go, go.
Chase no more.

Open now to the new.

Open to new life.
Open to new friendship.
Open to new love.

And, open to new opportunity.

New life is coming to you.

Make room.
Make room.

~Hayley Mermelstein

Confidence is your key.

A while back, when I was taking meditation classes with my teacher Ellen Tadd, we had a class on finding our key. Ellen explained we each had a key to unlocking our full potential. The key might be self love, or confidence, or full expression, or patience, or emotional balance. The key was that one elevated state or emotion that was most essential for you to work on in this life time. The key is different for each one of us, depending on what we have come to earth to learn and to contribute.

For example: Perhaps for someone who struggles deeply with impatience, then patience might be their key. It is through mastering patience that all other aspects of their life begin to fall into place (i.e. relationships improve, appropriate opportunities begin to fall into place, and more alignment with timing and flow begin to transpire.)

Perhaps for someone who is very shy about speaking up, then full expression becomes their key to fulfillment and contribution. As they learn to express themselves, all aspects of their life begin to come into better alignment.

Today, while I was meditating, I heard the message that confidence is my key. It’s been years since i had that class with Ellen, but I instantly realized that this was the answer to the question that was asked so long ago.

And so today, you might want to ask yourself: What is your key? What is it that you need to cultivate in order to unlock your full potential? What quality is wanting to come forward in you at this time?

You may know your answer instantly, or perhaps, the answer may come to you at some time in the future. Keep asking, and stay open. When the time is right, your key will be revealed.

For now, I’ll leave you with the message that I received in my meditation. Because developing confidence is something that can benefit us all.

Confidence is your key.

Confidence is your key. When you believe that you can do this. You will do it.

You have not, as of yet, truly believed that you were capable of accomplishing that which you came here to accomplish.

As you change and evolve this, and as you begin to truly embody confidence,the opportunities set before you will begin to show up.

Embody confidence now. Feel confident. Fill every cell of your body with confidence.

Know that you can do what you’ve come here to do.

Give thanks for your growing confidence and belief in yourself.

Work daily to cultivate a greater confidence. It is your key to success.

Embody confidence though you have no proof.
Embody confidence and see what shows up.
Embody confidence and seek to emanate confidence.

See yourself as capable and your capacities will grow.
See yourself as able to learn that which you came here to learn.
See yourself as able to contribute that which you came here to contribute.

Go forward with confidence now.

Let this be your experiment.
Let this be your test.

What happens as you begin to hold the energy of confidence more and more?

What clarity arises in you?
What opportunities naturally come your way?
What new actions flow from you effortlessly?

Make today, this week, this month, this new year an experiement with confidence.

Learn to face your challenges with confidence.

Know that there is a force of life working with you to manifest what you need.
Know that you yourself are far more capable than you give yourself credit for.
Know that you are more powerful than you currently realize.
Know that you have more wisdom than your currently acknowledge.
Know that confidence is your key.

Cultivate confidence now and the way forward will be revealed.

Be confident in your own inherent wisdom, strength, clarity, and life purpose. And know, that powerful energies are all around you, just waiting for you to step into your confidence and power.

We wait patiently.

The ball is in your court.

Cultivate your confidence and doors will start to open.

What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror?

This week at work, I had three different clients tell me their rituals when they looked at themselves in the mirror. (All this was completely unprovoked by me.)

Client number one talked about how she and a friend had developed this “joke” between them of looking in the mirror and saying: “Damn, I am a beautiful woman.” Or, “Damn, you look good!” She said it started out as just a silly antic between girl friends but it is a habit that she continued for over thirty years. Now this woman is a truly beautiful woman (both inside and out). She said that at first looking in the mirror and repeating this phrase, made her laugh, but now she totally believes what she had been telling herself and has watched herself transform over the years into the beautiful woman that she wanted to be.

Client number two was struggling with feeling lonely and being, “in between chapters” in her life. She decided that for once she was going to be her own best friend. She started looking in the mirror and saying: “I love you. I really, really love you. I am your best friend. The mantra: “I love you. I love you. I love you.” became the phrase that she repeated to herself when in front of her mirror and when going through her day. This client has been doing this for close to a year now, and in that time I have watched her transform into a glowing, loving woman who truly cares for herself and others. She has softened and simoltaneaouly grown in her confidence and self assurance. She is a new person and isn’t lonely anymore either.

Client number three is a healer, and said that a couple of months back she became tired of all of her “striving” to keep her healing practice going and she decided to start looking at herself in the mirror and say: I am a gifted healer. All who can benefit from my services find their way to me now. I am a gifted healer. All who can benefit from my services find their way to me now.” She said, this morning ritual really increased her feelings of confidence and interestingly her healing practice is quite busy at the moment as well.

In yet a fourth example from the week, I was watching the Tony Robbins documentary called, I Am Not Your Guru (available on Netflix, btw.) In the documentary he talked about how he became determined to make a difference in peoples lives and would go on his morning runs and the whole way would be saying to himself: “I am f**king unstoppable! I am f**king unstoppable. He would also practice really embodying and feeling what he was saying. He went on, through much effort and determination, to build an entire industry around helping others.

All four of these people had one thing in common. They decided to start retraining their minds. They felt one thing, and started saying the opposite as a way to elevate their state and change their way of being in their lives.

The thing is, we don’t even have to start off believing what we say. We can retrain the mind, just like we can retrain the body. But it takes repetition and vigilance. Through continual repetition of a chosen phrase, as well as practicing feeling the words we are saying as if they were already true, we can start to change the thought patterns in our brain.

Now, this takes vigilance and patience for the brain does not always like when we try to change it. Much the same way that our body doesn’t always want to exercise when we have become out of shape. But if we continue to repeat these positive phrases, and practice embodying a new attitude as if it is already here, then little by little they begin to take hold and we begin to change.

I felt re-inspired this week by my clients and their stories and began asking myself: What do I say to myself when I look in the mirror? What am I saying to myself as I go through my day? In what way could I elevate my state? What could I say differently that would leave me inspiried? How might my life change if I started to eminate a new vibration? What new actions might I take? What new opportunites might simply find their way to me as I shift and change my way of being? What miracles might transpire?

And so we all could ask ourselves: What do I currently say to myself when I look in the mirror? And what new attitude would I like to cultivate? Would you like greater self love? Greater confidence? Greater creativity? Greater freedom?

As for myself, for now I resonate with: I am a gifted healer and all who can benefit from my services find their way to me. But then again, I also like: I am love and love is all around me. And, I love you. I love you. I love you. Or, simply: I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I tend to like variety, and so maybe, I’ll have two or three affirmations, just to keep it interesting.

So, we can all become more aware of what we are saying to ourselves when we look at the mirror and go through our day. If what we are saying to ourselves isn’t helping us or uplifting us then we can each come up with something empowering and uplifting to say to as we brush our teeth, wash our face, put on makeup, shave or just pass a random mirror. Be aware of how this impacts the quality of your life over time.

Feel free to let me know what phrase you are going to work on, I’d love to hear from you!

P.S. Here is a Tony Robbins affirmation on abundance that I stumbled across last night. Thought I’d share it here,

God’s wealth is circulating in my life. His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously because I am one with God, and God is everything.

God’s wealth is circulating in my life. His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously because I am one with God, and God is everything.

God’s wealth is circulating in my life. His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously because I am one with God, and God is everything.