Think it. Feel it. Say it

I was clearing up a minor misunderstanding with a friend this morning. My friend really appreciated my call and my desire to keep things “clear” between us and ended our conversation by saying: “Please call me anytime something comes up or is bothering you at all. I really appreciate open communication. I am a think it, feel it, say it sort of person.

Her words reverberated in my head: Think it. Feel it. Say it.

Now, I through out my life have not been a think it, feel it, say it person.

I have been more of a think it, question it, doubt it, suppress it, get a headache sort of person. But I’m recovering and learning.

I’m learning to be more expressive. Learning to say what is on my mind. Learning to be more transparent.

This does not always come naturally for me. I am undoing perhaps lifetimes of not saying what is really on my mind and so for me it is a process of learning to express more and say what I’m feeling so it doesn’t get buried and perhaps do harm to my own body or my relationships.

Now think it, feel it, say it could of course lead to some problems. For people without a filter or without a sense of appropriate timing this could run amok. Also, there are times where it is simply best to keep our perceptions and awareness to ourselves. But for people with some diplomacy and social graces (and when the timing is right)perhaps this is something to ponder.

What might it be like to express more? What might it be like to say more of what is really on your mind? What might it be like to be more transparent?

We live in a world where many fear criticism and take it as meaning that they are all bad, which can make honest communication more difficult. But still, none the less, what might it be like to model a more honest and expressive way of being?

This is what I’m pondering this morning and will be experimenting with in the days and weeks ahead.

For now I’ll leave us all with an affirmation that might help us find the deepest, purest, most genuine expression that we have to offer.

Expressiveness:

I am fully expressive.
I am fully expressive.

I express myself fully and deeply.
I express myself fully and genuinely.

I am genuine.
I am myself.

I am kind.
I am compassionate.

I am real.
I am direct.

I say what is mine to say.

I am free to be me.
I am free to be me.

I am fully expressive.
I am fully expressive.
I am fully expressive.

A teacher of mine once said that we all have a key. Something that if we were to master would unlock the door to our deepest growth and development. Her key was patience. As she learned a deeper patience her growth and development was stimulate. She clairvoyantly looked into me and said that my key was full expression. I was here to learn to be fully expressive. It is the key to my growth and development.

So, here is to thinking it, feeling it and saying.

It’s been a long journey. And I’ve got a ways to go. But I am learning.

Blessings to all.

And may we each find our key and evolve into who we are most meant to be.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. Next Group Healing is happening Monday, August 19th at 7 p.m at 800 Main Street, Amherst , Ma (middle door in the front of the building.) Cost: $15.00

Look forward to seeing you there

Perfectly Imperfect

 Let us, therefore, learn to pass from one imperfect activity to another without worrying too much about what we are missing. ~Thomas Merton

 

I was sitting with a client and she was letting me know how great our last session was.  How I said just the right things, the healing was marvelous, she had profound insights on the way home, etc..etc..  I felt satisfied and complete for all of about thirty seconds.  And then the conversation continued and she said something and I said something and she said something and I said something and then I suddenly I realized that I had just said the wrong thing and instantly my moment of perfection was over.  I was back in the real world of learning to pass from one imperfect activity to the next

I think in private practice (I’m an acupuncturist) and perhaps in life in general we must, in the words of Thomas Merton, learn to pass from one imperfect activity to the next.  Its hard to say just the right thing all day, its hard to choose just the right points all the time, it’s hard to get the timing just right, its hard to be perfect.  Perhaps in the spiritual plane there is perfection, but here in the human world there is trial and error, rupture and repair, excellence and then falling short.  Sometimes I wish that wasn’t the truth.  But alas, I’m pretty sure it is.

I regretted saying the wrong thing to my client. (it wasn’t a big faux pas, just a minor, shoot, I wish I didn’t just say that sort of thing.)  I like when I’m wise and insightful and tuned in and say and do all the right things.  But, here on the human plane that sort of perfection just isn’t sustainable.

And so for now I must learn to be content moving from one imperfect situation to the next.  Sometimes being the wise and insightful healer, sometimes being the novice who says the wrong thing at the wrong time and stumbles about.  Sometimes I am the one who can listen deeply and listen to understand and say and write just the right things at just the right time, and sometimes I forget to listen and speak to soon, get opinionated, say the wrong thing, and listen to simply reply.

We are all a work in progress and the sooner we accept that both for ourselves and others the more peace we will find on this planet.  We will often make the same mistakes over and over again, and yet still,, once again, in the words of Thomas Merton, the repeated experience has value.

And so perhaps this week we can learn to let ourselves and others a little off the hook.  Perhaps we can allow ourselves to be works in progress who are aspiring to be our best while at the same time understanding that we will stumble many times through out the day.  Perhaps we can extend this same grace to those around us.  Learning to give them space to be a work in progress as well.

In the spiritual realm perhaps thee is perfection, here in the human plane, it gets messy.

And so I write this for you, and I write this for me.

A plate of compassion all around as we learn to nurture our strengths and embrace our imperfections and learn to pass from one imperfect activity to the next.

For now  I’ll leave you with my all time favorite quote from Thomas Merton’s book No Man is an Island.  Perhaps it’s the theme song for my life:

“Let us, therefore, learn to pass from one imperfect activity to another without worrying too much about what we are missing. It is true that we make many mistakes. But the biggest of them all is to be surprised at them: as if we had some hope of never making any.

“Mistakes are a part of our life, and not the least important part.  I f we are humble, and if we believe in the Providence of God, we will see that our mistakes are not merely a necessary evil, something we must lament and count as lost: they enter into the very structure of our existence.  It is by making mistakes that we gain experience, not only for ourselves but for others .  And though our experience prevents neither ourselves nor others from making the same mistake many times, the repeated experience still has a positive value.”

Hayley Mermelstein

Assertiveness is my superpower

Assertiveness is my superpower. Well, actually, that is not true. I just wish assertiveness was my superpower. But in the sixth grade I was voted the nicest person in the entire school. And n the third grade I got some award for being the best civilian in my entire class.

Do you know what that means?

Assertiveness was definitely not my superpower. (Because usually super nice people are busy squashing their own needs because they don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.)

In my defense I will say that perhaps my superpowers are kindness and compassion and understanding and intuition and depth and caring and an absolute love of learning. All very important attributes that allows me to be the healer that I am.

But you know, just today, I saw a post on facebook where a friend of mine announced that assertiveness was her superpower and it got me thinking: What would it be like to have assertiveness be my superpower?

I started to daydream and found myself pretending I was my friend and that assertiveness really was really my superpower. I mean kindness and compassion are nice and everything, but honestly I am getting a little bored with myself and tired of always being the kind, understanding one. Perhaps I could mix it up a bit, I thought to myself, and develop a new superpower.

So, I think for today I am going to pretend that assertiveness is my new found superpower. I am going to pretend that I woke up with a new personality and that personality has some assertiveness to it. I am going to embody a new attitude. This new persona values herself enough to demand a certain standard of behavior from those who want to be in her life. This new persona charges what she is worth and doesn’t apologize for it. This new persona does not put up with so much bullshit. This new persona is genuine and real. And this new persona definitely will not be voted the nicest person in her class

Now, of course, I still value compassion and kindness and understanding. That goes without saying. But how much more powerful would that kindness and caring be if it was coupled with assertiveness and strength?

I will let you know once I find out!
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For now, you may want to consider what is your current superpower and what is the superpower you wish you had?

You may want to experiment with trying on a new persona and see what shows up differently in your life, when you show up differently.

I’ll be doing this experiment right along with you….I’ll keep you posted.

Hayley Mermelstein

p.s. And if you would like to join with others in the spirit of community and healing and transformation, we will be having our group healing at 800 Main street, Monday May 13, from 7-8:30 at 800 main Street in Amherst. The class is drop in and all are welcome. The cost is $15.00 Hope to see you there!

Time to Rest

I remember reading a book in college that talked about the Sabbath. It said as most of know, that every seventh day was to be a day of rest.  What most of us don’t know is that it also went on to say that every seventh week was to be a week of rest, every seventh month a month of rest and every seventh year was to be a year of rest (hence the sabbatical).  I remember when I read about the Sabbath and this cycle of rest and repair that it made a lot of sense to me.  When I first started working I was mindful to make every seventh day a day of rest and even every seventh week a week of rest.  As time went on and life got more busy I veered from that path, but these days I find myself reflecting on what I read way back then and desiring to re-implement some of that wisdom into my life now.

These days we live in a culture that values productivity, accomplishment and general busyness.  I remember reading an article last year about how our culture glorifies busy.  in fact, when you ask someone how they are a common response is:  BUSY.  As a culture we have lost the fine art of rest, reflection, and time for self.  Everyone is too busy to rest and reflect.

In my work as an acupuncturist I see one of my main jobs is to give people permission to rest.  So often that which our bodies need is some time for rest and reflection.  Because we live in a culture that doesn’t value these things people often feel guilty “doing nothing” or taking time for themselves or taking time to rest.

But what if what we really need to heal, repair and feel satisfied in our lives is time to slow down and time to reflect?  What if the schedule of rest referred to in the book I was reading was accurate?  What if every seventh day was a day of rest, every seventh week a week of rest, every seventh month a month of rest and every seventh year a year of rest.  How might the quality of our lives change?

Now, I realize that in our modern world taking a year or even a month off might be unrealistic but perhaps we all could get better at taking some time for ourselves, taking time to slow down, and taking more time for contemplation and rejuvenation.

Perhaps if we are not ready to give ourselves more scheduled time off we could start with giving ourselves more permission to take a nap   I read somewhere that Albert Einstein took three naps a day.  I am guessing that 3 naps a day allowed his brain to function at its best and allowed insight and creativity to explode in him.  What might we accomplish if we allowed ourselves to rest more and take a nap now and then?

My Shiatsu teacher was particularly inspiring in this regard and really taught me about the value of giving myself time to reflect, rest and rejuvenate in a culture that doesn’t value these things.  It is something that has stayed with me all these years.

And so, even if you can’t take a month or a year off or even a week off, perhaps you could give yourself more permission to rest.  Perhaps we could all give ourselves more permission to take it slow sometimes, to nap, to rest, to rejuvenate and just be.  We live in a culture that values the more masculine attributes of productivity, drive, contribution and ambition.  And while these are admirable traits for all of us they become out of balance when not coupled with the more traditionally feminine attributes of rest, quietude, nurtance, and beingness.  We all need a balance of the masculine and feminine regardless of our gender.  We all need discipline and drive but we also need time for reflection and rest and beingness.  Of course, the balance will look different for each one of us depending on the stage of life we are in and our life purpose.  And so we can each learn to listen deeply within and find the balance that suites our individual life path.

For now, above all else. I would like to give you permission to rest.  I would like to give you permission to take a nap from time to time.   And I would like to give you permission to just be for a while.  Put your worldly ambition aside for a time and see what bubbles up inside of you when you give yourself some space.

And of course, you don’t need my permission for anything.  But because we live in a culture that so values busyness, I think it can be reassuring to remember that it is okay to take it slow sometimes, it is okay to rest, and it is okay to just be for a while.

So give yourself a day of rest from time to time, and perhaps a week of rest now and then.  Listen deeply and see what feels right for you.  Take the idea of balancing the yin and the yang and see how it fits into your life.

And hey, if three naps a day worked for Albert Einstein, who knows what a little rest might do for us!

Hayley Mermelstein

p.s. And if you would like to join with others in the spirit of community and healing and transformation, we will be having our group healing at 800 Main street, this Monday, April 15 from 7-8:30 at 800 main Street in Amherst.  The class is drop in and all are welcome.  The cost is $15.00 Hope to see you there!

 

Just Getting Started

Note to self: You are not too old and it’s not too late. ~Facebook

A number of years ago I got into a conversation with a client that I reflect upon frequently. My client told me about her father, a famous songwriter, who was still writing songs professionally in his 90’s . She also told he had a number of friends in his 90’s  who were still very active and pursuing their creativity and art. In fact, my client’s father said that he felt like he was just getting started and that many of his fellow 90-year-old friends felt the same way.

The line: He told me that he felt like he was just getting started reverberated in my head when I heard it, for I could relate to the feeling. I, myself, was about 48 at the time and felt like I was just getting started. It struck me that perhaps I would feel that way my whole life. At each chapter I might feel like I had finally learned enough to really get started.

I loved this story because it gave me the feeling of having time. I remember a friend telling me years ago that the ages of 35 – 55 are  generally the most productive years  but what if she was wrong. What if that is true for some, but not for others?

What if many of us are just getting started in our 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and yes even 80’s and 90’s? When I am able to reframe my life in that way, a part of me relaxes and a feeling of being timeless comes over me. I have time to create, I have time to explore, I have time to learn and grow. And regardless of the actual number of years I have left on this planet its reassuring to approach life with this feeling.

I also reflect, as I’m writing, on a talk I heard by a man named Joel Goldsmith, founder of the  The Infinite Way. He believed that many people come into there prime in their 70’s and 80’s not their 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s. as is promoted in our culture. He said that it is in our 70’s and 80’s that many of us have acquired the wisdom to really be able to contribute in a deeper way.

Perhaps each one of us is simply on our own time frame and each one of us blooms in our own way and in our own time. Perhaps some bloom early, some bloom late and perhaps some don’t bloom at all because that is not the type of plant they are. Perhaps we really can’t compare ourselves to each other because each is moving through life in their own time in their own way.

I remember reading that Steve Jobs had a strong intuition from an early age that he would not be on this planet for long and so he had a compelling urge to produce and contribute early in his life. On the other hand, Louise Hay struggled for many years before starting her now famous publishing company Hay House when she was 65 years old. I guess we are really all different and on different time frames.

And of course, not everyone has come to this planet to create art of to start a computer company. Some have come to be mothers and fathers, and some have come to spread joy or bring compassion to this planet. Everyone’s contribution is different. For some their contribution is related to their work and for some its related to a role they may play in life and for others it is related to a quality they are learning to bring to earth ( for some people its not about what they do, but how they do what they do.)

So whether you have come to this earth to be creative, be a parent, or bring greater love and compassion to all, I have a message for you.  (i saw it on facebook, so it must be true!)

It’s not too late and your not to old.

You have time.

And even if you are at the very end of your life, and you feel that you are running out of time, perhaps you too are just getting started on your next adventure through the cosmos.

Perhaps we really are all just getting started no matter where we are at.  And so we call remind ourselves frequently:  It’s not too late and I’m not to old.  I have time.

And just perhaps, we can all relax a little bit because we just might have all of eternity to figure this thing called life out.

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. There is a theory that the only person we are ever talking to is ourselves. When I write I always feel I am talking to myself and reminding myself of what I most need to hear.

P.S.S. And if you would like to join with others in the spirit of community and healing and transformation, we will be having our group healing at 800 Main street, this Monday, April 15 from 7-8:30 at 800 main Street in Amherst.  The class is drop in and all are welcome.  Hope to see you there!

 

 

How Are You?

I was at work this morning when suddenly I heard rock music blasting from the office next door. Since I’m an acupuncturist who offers peaceful, soothing sessions I felt I needed to address this right away. It was a cold New England morning and so I put on my hat and coat and scarf and ventured next door to deal with the noise issue.

The neighbors agreed to lower their music, and on my way back to my office I bumped into the property manager and I figured that this was as good a time as any to fill him in on what had been transpiring. With limited time and the cold wind howling I launched right in and began to let him know what was going on and what I thought should be done about it. But somewhere in the middle of my diatribe I heard a still small voice whisper: Ask him how he is.”

Now, I have learned when I hear a still small voice speaking to me to stop and listen and so I stopped mid sentence, turned to the property manager and said: You know I launched right in, I want to stop and ask you how you are. How are you, by the way?

I paused and really made space to hear his answer and this big burly guy who generally doesn’t say very much and is sort of rough around the edges looked at me and said, Not very good.

And then he started to cry.

The wind was howling and I was cold but I just stood there so thankful that something in me told me to stop talking and start listening. And so I stood there and I listened for a while and the property manager talked.

He told me his dog had died unexpectantly two nights ago. His dog was his constant companion, perhaps the deepest bond this loner had on the planet. And so I put aside my concerns about this and that for another time and just let him tell me about his special bond with his dog.

And the wind howled and he talked and I thought but for the grace of God go I. But for the grace of God that I heard that voice that told me to ask him how he was.

I had good reason to be in a rush that morning and to be distracted. I still had a client on the table with acupuncture needles in. It was cold outside. The wind was blowing. The neighbors where being really loud at 10:30 in the morning. The massage therapist in my office was waiting to here what was going on with the noise issue. But something in me said just stop. Stop moving so fast. Ask this man how he is.

I share this story as a reminder to all of us because I almost missed this moment, this opportunity to help a fellow traveler on this journey called life. I was distracted, I was annoyed. I almost was so wrapped up in myself that I could have missed the moment.

This was a good reminder to me that everyone is suffering and everyone has some pain they are carrying.   It was a good reminder to slow down and be present. It was a good reminder, to remember to look people in the eye from time to time and ask: How are you and really listen to their answer.

People will talk if you will listen.

Find someone to comfort this weekend. Find someone to ask: how are you? It could be someone in your life, or a store clerk or the teller at the bank. You never know where you might be needed.

So often we look for grand, lofty ways to be helpful. Sometimes the best contribution we can offer another on this planet is to care enough to ask: How are you and listen to the answer.

Have a good weekend everyone. May the force be with you. And may you lighten someones burden and may someone lighten your burden as well.

And if you want to join with others in the spirit of community and healing and transformation, we will be having our group healing at 800 Main street, this Monday, March 11 from 7-8:30 at 800 main Street in Amherst. The class is drop in and all are welcome.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Already Loved

I was listening to a young woman speak about how she was always striving for something just out of reach: more money, more love, more beauty, more weight loss etc…etc.. She decided for a while to stop all the striving and just see herself as already there.  She decided to stop the what I want is just out of reach tape and just embody and feel what she hoped to feel in the future, as if it was here now.

This mirrored much of what I have been learning about lately, where you adopt the frequency of what you want to achieve as if it where here now.

For example, if you want to have more wealth you would carry the vibration of a wealthy person and allow wealth to be drawn to you.  If you desired more love, you would carry the vibration of a person who was already loved and see what shows up differently when you show up differently.

(I know this sounds a little crazy, but just bear with me here….)

The basic philosophy is that it is hard to create from a place of lack.  If you feel like there is never enough love, it’s hard to create a life filled with love.  If you always feel you don’t have enough money, it’s hard to actually generate a life of abundance.  The philosophy is in a nut shell, change your vibration and see what shows up differently. Or to put it another way, nothing changes until you change.  Or to put it a third way, one of the definitions of insanity is to do the same thing (or repeat the same thoughts) day after day and expect things to show up differently.

Now I’m not entirely sure if this philosophy is accurate or not but what I do know for sure is that it is not very fun, or expansive, or life affirming to walk around all day with a feeling of lack, i.e. not enough money, not enough love, not enough weight loss, not enough fun, etc…etc..

What would it be like to adopt a feeling of enough and just feel thankful in advance?  What might change if we stopped running the there is not enough tape?  What might change if we elevated our vibration, changed our frequency and radiated a new electromagnetic field out into the universe.  What might change, if we stopped running the same old tapes in our mind and had some new thoughts for a change?

It is in this vein, that I wrote Already loved.  You may want to read it slowly and embody the statements as if they are already here now.  You may want to pick one of two statements and practice going through the day embodying a new energy.  For example:  You could go through the day embodying the feeling of a wealthy woman or go through the day as if all your needs were already meet or go through the day as if your life was filled with love.

Let this be a fun experiment.  What shows up differently, when you show up differently?

No one needs to know about this experiment, by the way.  It can just be your own subtle shift in energy and personal experiment with life.

Already loved.

I am already loved.
I am already cared about.
I am already surrounded by friends.
I am already surrounded by the love of my life.

All my needs are already met.

I am already beautiful.
I am already the perfect weight.
I am already sexy and attractive.

All my needs are already met.

I am already filled with great devotion.
I am already of great service in the world.
I am already offering my full contribution.

All my needs are already met.

I am already very wealthy.
I am already very abundant.
I am already wildly successful.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already seen.
I am already valued.
I am already cared about.

All my needs are already met.

I am already having great travel experiences.
I am already having great adventures.

I am already living a life of adventure and fun.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already in great shape physically.
I am already working out on a regular basis.
I am already enjoying my body.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already in excellent health.
I am already feeling really well in my body.
I am already radiating wellness.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already loving myself.
I am already taking really good care of myself.
I am already appreciating myself.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already well.
I am already whole.
I am already abundant.
I am already confident.
I am already powerful.
I am already strong.
I am already humble.
I am already compassionate.
I am already loving.
I am already wise.
I am already deep.
I am already creative.
I am already in high demand.
I am already well able.
I am already capable.
I am already very satisfied.

All of my needs are already met.
All of my needs are already met.
All of my needs are already met.

Walk to your car as if all of your needs are already met.
Go to work as if you already are a wealthy man or women.
Go through your day as if you are already wildly loved in just the way you want to be loved.
Go through the day today as if your needs are already met.

Be thankful.
Be appreciative.
Be relieved.

Embody it as if it is already here now.

Let this be your experiment with life.

Do if for an hour, a day, a week or even a year.
See what shows up differently, when you show up differently.

Radiate a new electromagnetic signature out into the field.
See what changes when you change.

I’ll be practicing along beside you.
Or perhaps,  I am already there.

Hayley Mermelstein

All My Needs Are Met

A teacher of mine has been talking lately about how he is embodying the attitude: All my needs are met. It’s an experiment of sorts. He is examing what changes when he embodies a new attitude, a new state of mind.

Many of us, myself included, carry a fair amount of limited attitudes: attitudes (based in lack) such as: No one understands me. My needs don’t matter. There is never enough, etc..etc.. What affects do these states of mind have on our life? In what ways are they influencing how things show up in our lives?

There is a theory, that nothing changes until we change. So if we want things to start to show up differently in our lives, we have to begin to embody a new attitude and a new way of being. In other words, if we want things to change, we have to show up differently.

We tend to approach change from the opposite angle. We want things in the outer world to show up differently, so that we can feel differently inside of ourselves.

For today, you may want to experiment with changing and evolving your inner state first and then be aware of how things begin to show up differently in your life.

Though this may sound simple, at times it can require a great deal of focus, for these old tapes that we play are well grooved into our mind and psyche. And yet still, the fact remands, that if we want to grow and evolve we ultimately need to upgrade these tapes.

And so you may want to pick a limited attitude that you want to evolve and change and begin the process of embodying a new attitude. Do this as an experiment. What shows up differently when you show up differently? What changes when you change?

Rather than wait for external circumstances to change so that you can feel better, see what happens when you begin to embody a new state of mind first and see what reconfigures on your behalf.

I’m still working on these principles and learning how to change my state ahead of the external event. For now I’ll be working on shifting from a feeling of lack to a feeling of all my needs are met and seeing what shows up differently when I show up differently. It will be a work in progress for sure.

I thought I’d leave you with a short affirmation/meditation that I wrote on embodying the attitude of: All my needs are met in case you too would also like to upgrade your thinking and feeling in this regard.

All my needs are meet.

Take a moment now and take a deep breath.

Allow your attention to go inward, going deeper and deeper inside of yourself.

Repeat the affirmation:

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

Feel the vibration of the words.

Allow the vibration to wash over you.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

Feel it.

Embody it.

Shift your vibration now.

Imagine what it would be like to really feel as if all of your needs were met.

Embody it as if it were here now.

Change your energy.

Radiate this new frequency out into the world.

Allow this frequency to influence how things show up for you rather than waiting for the external world to provide you what you need so that you can feel a certain way.

Change your energy first and see how things begin to show up differently.

Begin to feel gratitude in your heart. Give thanks as if it is already here now (because, of course, gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership!)

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all that I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that all that I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that divine synchronicities are happening everyday.

Thank you spirit that miracles are happening all around me.

Thank you spirit that love comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that abundance comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that loving people fill my world.

Thank you spirit that new opportunities are pouring into my life.

Thank you spirit that all those that I can assist and help are irresistably drawn to me now.

Thank you spirit that my world contribution is growing.

Thank you spirit that my service is expanding.

Thank you spirit that abundance is pouring in.

Thank you spirit that love is all around me.

Thank you spirit that everything I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that everything I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Embody this now.

Raise your energy.

Raise your vibration.

Radiate the feeling that all my needs are met out into the world.

Radiate a new frequency out into the universe.

How would it feel if all of your needs were met?

Embody that feeling now.

Radiate that feeling now.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Feel it.

Embody it.

Radiate it.

Feel it as if it is here now.

Embody it as if it is here now.

Radiate it as if it is here now.

Raise your vibration.

Raise your frequency.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Pause frequently through out your day today to raise your energy, to change your vibration and radiate a new frequency out into the universe. Be aware of what changes when you change. Allow this to be your great experiment with life.

You’ve done it the old way for most of your life (waiting for something outside of you to change so that you could feel differently). Experiment today with changing your frequency first and seeing what shows up differently.

You can do this in a sitting meditation. You can practice as you exercise, as you go for a walk, as you stand in line at the bank, when you are on hold on the phone, when you are waiting for a friend.

Use the pauses in your day to raise your vibration and change your frequency.

Again ,let this be your grand experiment with life.

I will be experimenting with you and look forward to seeing what transpires.

~Hayley Mermelstein

 

 

 

 

Love is my meditation.

I was walking on a beach in Cancun with 900 other classmates, headphones on, doing my walking meditation when suddenly the guided meditation that I was listening to stopped working.  I froze for a moment unsure of what to do or how to proceed.

Suddenly, a workshop volunteer appeared and offered to help with my phone and meditation.  Within minutes he got it working again and I could hear the guided meditation.  I was flooded with appreciation for this volunteer and was expressing it profusely.

He turned to me and said, “ I am totally happy to help, love is my meditation.:

His words reverberated in my head.

Love is my meditation.

What would it be like to make love my meditation, I wondered?  Here I am on a 7-day meditation retreat, could I go home and make love my mediation?  I felt inspired by the challenge I was thinking about implementing.

Fast forward six month later.

I have plans with a friend but circumstances change and I unexpectedly need to cancel.  She is upset and disappointed with me….again.

I begin to feel guilty, misunderstood and resentful.  Can’t she see that I have needs too?  Can’t she see that I’m not just here to serve her?  Can’t she see that she holds me to a higher standard than she holds herself?

Stop.

I catch myself.

I’m feeling like a victim.  Running the poor me, no one understands me tape.

What if love really was my meditation, like, right now.

I’m driving as I have this thought and so right there and then as I’m turning right at the red light I start meditating on love as I drive (with eyes open of course!)

Love.
Love.
Love.

Love is my meditation.

I say to myself.  Allowing myself to feel the vibration of the words.

Love.
Love.
Love.

But it’s not fair, she has a double standard.  She holds me to a higher standard than she holds herself, my analytical mind retorts.

Love is my meditation; I shoot back at my brain that desperately wants to run its familiar tapes.

Love.
Love.
Love.

Feel it.
Embody it.

(I say to myself.)

Love is my mediation.
Love is my meditation.

And so I drive along this way for another minute or two. Overcoming the voices that want me to be a victim, misunderstood, and alone, and meditating instead on love.

I don’t’ wait till I get home.  I don’t wait until I’m in a formal meditation.  I just keep repeating, feeling, and embodying the mantra:

Love.
Love.
Love.

And slowly my heart begins to open again and I am feeling love and a new thought enters my head (In my now more elevated state my mind is more coherent and I am able to hear guidance)and I hear a male voice say to me:  You are modeling self-care, something she knows nothing about.

And suddenly everything changes.  I am no longer hurt.  I am no longer feeling misunderstood   I am no longer feeling resentful.

Suddenly I see what is so obvious.

My friend doesn’t know how to take care of herself and so she gets resentful and upset when I model self-care.  If I can stay steady, then I model a new way of being for her and subtly give her permission to take care of herself too.

If I get upset and hurt at her lack of understanding of me, I muddy the waters and we both get caught in a cycle of frustration and reactivity.

She may hear the message I’m sending now, or it may take years or even life times to sink in.  But now  rather than feeling misunderstood I feel like a role model.   Instead of feeling hurt and victimized, I feel compassion for my friend who works herself to the bone and spends her life meeting the needs of others without any thought or consideration of her own needs.   I am flooded with true love and understanding.

Life gives us many opportunities within a day to practice love as our meditation.  In fact, perhaps its better to start cultivating the feeling of love before the need even arises, so that we are more prepared for the tests that life will inevitability throw our way.

The theory is that when you can maintain an elevated state, such as love, for an extended period of time, your heart comes into greater balance and creates something called heart coherence.  When your heart becomes coherent it sends a clear signal to your brain which causes the brain to become coherent.  When your heart and brain are coherent, you become coherent.

When you find yourself in these more balanced states, your health can improve, you mind can settle and you can gain access to greater wisdom and clarity, and decision making can become easier.

So practice love as your meditation today and practice achieving greater coherence in your heart and brain and see what miracles unfold in your body, mind and life.

I’ll be practicing right along with you, doing the work that is challenging to do  and yet can pay such high dividends.

And If you live in New England, have a nice snow day!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. After writing this blog, I also realized that my friend is also a teacher for me.  She is teaching me to not be such a people pleaser and do my best to listen to guidance rather than try to please those around me.  Its an ongoing lesson and experiment in trial and error for sure.

 

 

Your Inner Roommate is Trying to Kill You.

I was reading a book called The Untethered Soul some time ago and early in the book the author had you personify the voice in your head.  In other words, he had you imagine that the voice in your head was your inner roommate.  He wanted you to listen to how this inner roommate is talking to you.  He pointed out that inevitably you realize that your inner roommate is trying to kill you and that if such a person actually existed you would quickly eliminate them from your life.

Recently, I was listening to some of the things that my inner roommate was saying to me, and I too decided that, in fact, my inner roommate was trying to kill me.

So I wrote a letter to myself, the kind that I would want to receive from a loving friend or parent.

I thought I’d share the letter with all of you, in case you too have an inner roommate that is trying to do you in.

We must all learn to overcome the voices in our head that are trying to sabotage us our efforts and rise up into our own power and strength.

This is not an easy task and in the words of a teacher of mine, if this was easy, everyone would do it.

And yet, still, the task remains: To replace the violent inner roommate who is trying to keep us small (it feels safer that way) with a wonderful inner cheerleader who supports our expansion and growth.

Here is my love letter from the divine.

I hope it softens the voices in your head and allows you to go forward with a little more strength and confidence today.

Read frequently for it takes some time to retrain the voices in our head.

Tell yourself what you long to hear.

And remember, in the words of Vincent Van Gogh:

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Love letter from the divine.

I love you.
I love you.

You can do this.

I love you.
I love you.

You are powerful.

I love you.
I love you.

You are beautiful.

I love you.
I love you.

I believe in you.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.

I love you.
I love you.

You got this.

I love you.
I love you.

Rise up.

I love you.
I love you.

You are capable.

I love you.
I love you.

You are strong.

I love you.
I love you.

You are a genius.

I love you.
I love you.

You are creative.

I love you.
I love you.

Open to receive.

I love you.
I love you.

You are magnificient.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop scaring yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

You are never alone.

I love you.
I love you.

Powerful beings of light are all around you.

I love you.
I love you.

All of life is conspiring in your favor.

I love you.
I love you.

All of life is working with you to manifest what you need.

I love you.
I love you.

One touch of divine favor changes everything.

I love you.
I love you.

Expand your idea of what you are capable of.

I love you.
I love you.

You can bring expansion into your life.

I love you.
I love you.

You are more than enough.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop playing small.

I love you.
I love you.

The divine is everywhere.

I love you.
I love you.

You are surrounded in light.

I love you.
I love you.

Let us work with you to manifest what you need.

I love you.
I love you.

You are supported.

I love you.
I love you.

Devote yourself to service.

I love you.
I love you.

We are walking you home.

I love you.
I love you.

Be kinder to yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop scaring yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

You can do this.
You can do this.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.
You deserve goodness.

Open to receive.
Open to receive.

Be strong.
Be powerful.
Be confident.

And remember that you are never alone.

You got this.
We believe in you.

I love you.
I love you.
I love you.

~Hayley Mermelstein

Have a good week everyone, and if you live locally feel free to join us for our live group healing on Monday the 14th or join us on Thursday nights for our wonderful meditation group.  We would love to see you!

Group Healing January 14th:

Our next group healing will be Monday January 14 from 7-8:30 at 800 Main Street, Amherst Ma. (middle door in the front of the building.)  The fee is $15.00.

This is a wonderful evening of healing, community, laughter, enjoyment and elevated states of consciousness.

Come for yourself, come to contribute to the healing of others, come to raise your vibration and the vibration of the planet.

Little by little, we rise up, raise our vibration, elevate our state and contribute to the healing of ourselves, our community, and our world.

Be part of the revolution.

Together we create a light that brings healing to ourselves, our family and friends, our community and our world.

Please join us!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein