I am open and I stand in my conviction.

We had a really nice meditation class this past Thursday. The topic was standing in your convictions and being open, all at the same time. My understanding is that if you are only in your convictions you will become rigid and if you are only open you will be like a leaf in the wind. And so, ultimately we want to blend the two so that we are strong in our convictions, while simeoutaneously being as open as we can. From this blend of conviction and openness, a natural knowing as to how to navigate the complexity of our lives comes into sharper view.

For example, I meditated on a challenging relationship that I have with a colleague and from the balance of openness and conviction I was able to see that this colleague was having a hard time and was out of balance right now. From that awareness came a natural compassion along with an understanding that it was best to step back and stay out of harms way for a while.

I wrote a short meditation on the subject of openness and conviction and thought I’d share some of it here. If you would like to explore these and other topics (such as opening the heart, stepping into wisdom, building confidence, or coupling deep listening with full expression) feel free to stop by our Thursday night meditation class. The class is drop in, is $25.00/class and is open to the public and is held at 800 Main Street in Amherst (middle door in the front of the building.)

Its an engaging and interesting class that we deepen your meditation abilities and your abilities to listen deeply, as well as provide real tools that can help all us of to navigate the complexities of every day life. I look forward to seeing you at our group! If you have any questions, feel free to email or call me!

Openness and Conviction

I am open.
I am open.
I am open.

I am open to healing.
I am open to the light.
I am open to new opportunities.
I am open to a new point of view.
I am open to seeing things differently.
I am open to positive change.
I am open to new adventures.
I am open to new people.
I am open to new friendships.
I am open to love.

I am open.
I am open.
I am open.

Pause and see how being open feels.

Affirm:

I am open.
I am open.

I am open to divine guidance.
I am open to divine assistance.
I am open to newness.
I am open to new opportunities flooding my life.
I am open and my openness draws new opportunities to me.
I am as open as I can be.

I am open.
I am open.

Pause again and see how open you can be.

And now this time affirm:

I stand in my conviction.
I stand in my conviction.

I am filled with certainty.
I am strong.
I am powerful.
I am courageous.
I am confident.

I stand in my conviction.
I stand in my conviction.

I know how I feel.
I know what to do.
I know what to say.

I am certain.
I am confident.
I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am courageous.

I stand in my conviction.
I stand in my conviction.

Feel the strength and the power that comes from standing in your convictions.
Let yourself grow stronger as you stand firm and steady in the truth of who you are.

And now this time, lets combine the two.

I stand in my conviction and I am open.
I stand in my conviction and I am open.
I stand in my conviction and I am open.

See how open you can be as you go through your life.
See how strong and in your conviction you can be.

Put the two together .

Balance your strong conviction with openness and the awareness that everything changes and new insights and opportunities and course changes can come at any moment.
Be strong in who you are but remain open and flexible in the awareness that every moment is new and things are always changing.

Affirm frequently:

I am open and I stand in my conviction.
I am open and I stand in my conviction.
I am open and I stand in my conviction.

As you find this inner balance inside of yourself, a natural clarity and knowing about how to best navigate the complexity of every day life will arise.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2016

Messenger of compassion

We all come to bring a message. Whether its a message of peace or love or courage or strength or compassion or wisdom. Part of my message, I believe, is compassion. I am a major work in progress to be sure. But still, I aspire.

i was reflecting on this today and wrote this short passage. I thought I’d share it here because compassion is a message we can all work on bringing to this troubled planet that we inhabit together.

I am a messenger of compassion.

I am a being of great compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion.

I am generous in my compassion.
I give compassion freely.

You do not have to earn my compassion.
For I am a being of compassion and I have come to offer compassion to all.

Compassion is my message.
Compassion is why I am here.

I am here to offer compassion.

I am here to learn how to extend compassion to all.
I am here to be a beacon of compassion.

And so I am learning, and test after test I am learning.

Sometimes I pass the test and sometimes I fail, but all the while, I am learning to become the being of great compassion that I am.

And so I rise up and I start again.

And I endeavor to offer the compassion that I have come to offer.
I endeavor to be the being of compassion that I am.

I endeavor to offer my compassion to all, whether I am understood or not understood. Whether I am treated kindly or treated poorly. Whether I agree or disagree.

None of this matters now.

Its’ all simply a test to assist me in delivering more perfectly the message I’ve come to deliver.

I am a being of great compassion.
I am a being of great compassion.

I’ve come to extend compassion to all and I will deliver it as best as I can.

I am a messenger of compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion and I offer my compassion to the world today.

I am a messenger of compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion and I extend my compassion to all.

We all have a message to bring. Some are here to bring a message of compassion. Some are here to bring a message of love. Some are here to bring a message of strength and courage and power and confidence. Some are here to bring a message of wholeness. We each have a message to share and we each have something to learn. Ask today: What is my message? What have I come to share and to offer? We can offer our message wherever we are and with whatever we are doing.

If you are not sure what your message is pick a spiritual principle that you would like to cultivate, such as love or compassion or wholeness or balance or wisdom or confidence or strength or sensitivity and begin the process of cultivating it and offering it today. We can all have more than one message too.

Offer your message today and be gentle with yourself because you will be tested and you will pass some tests and fail others. All tests serve to strengthen your ability to offer your message regardless of what is going on around you.

Rise up in your strength and seek to offer that which you have come to offer. Rise up and bring the message that you were born to deliver. Rise up and offer what you have come to offer.

Be patient with yourself for you will do this imperfectly. Be patient with yourself because this is a process. Be patient with yourself for you will have to dig deep to learn consistency.

Be patient with yourself but be disciplined.

As you learn to offer your message more consistently your whole life will evolve and transform.

Ask today: what is my message and seek to offer that which you came to offer and you shall be satisfied.

~Hayley Mermelstein

He who angers you, conquers you.

I was sitting in my living room, content with my days work when I received an unexpected phone call. The call was from someone I used to know, and without going into the details, suffice it to say, that the call annoyed me. It really annoyed me. I found myself ruminating with such questions as: Why did he call me? Why is he so insensitive? What is his problem?

To make matters worse, I took the call and accidently revealed more than I intended, which sparked a whole other level of self questioning and annoyance: Why did I pick up the phone? How did I let myself get sucked back in? Why did I take the bait?

And then somewhere in the midst of my turmoil I remembered the quote from Elizabeth Kenny: He who angers you, conquers you.

Ah, yes. I forgot. This is a test. This is a test in not giving your power away. This is a test in remembering the truth of who you are even if those around you don’t see it. This is a test in holding emotional balance. This is a test in not letting them get under your skin. This is a test in compassion. This is a test of kindness. This is a test in valuing yourself and self worth. This is a test in staying steady while dealing with the imbalances that exist within you and all around you. This is a test and only a test.

And so with new resolve, I started again. With new resolve, I remembered the great power that I am. And with new resolve I remembered the truth of who I am and how I want to be in the world.

And then I hear the words:

“These people who annoy us are essential if we are to actualize our best. How can we refine our nature without some resistance, without some challenge? How can we become a good sailor without some storms and inclement weather?

Be strong now in the rememberance of who you truly are. You are a powerful being of light. See the challenges set before you as calls to step into your power more and more. Do not be so discouraged when you stumble. For stumble you will. Many times. The important point is to pick your self up and resolve once again. And each time you will grow in your ability to hold your power. It may take many, many, many repetitions to be able to hold this consistently, and so for now be content with your inconsistency, but continue to aspire daily to connect with the true and powerful being of light that you are.

Again do not be discouraged by the stumbles and falls, they are an expected and necessary part of the path. See each fall as a call to greater power. See each stumble as a sign post of where your blockages lie.

This is a process and not a fast one either. And so be content with progress and be content with practice. This is your practice and this is your test. You will have many opportunities to retake the test and so be patient with yourself and be steadfast in your commitment to bringing forward the best that lies within you.”

Affirm now:

I am powerful.
I am powerful.

I am growing in ability to hold my power everyday.
I am embodying more of my power everyday.

I expand into the oneness now.
I merge with the all that is.

I expand into the great and infinite power that I am.

I am a powerful being of light.
I am a powerful being of expansion.
I am a powerful being of wisdom and clarity.

I am powerful.
I am powerful.
I am powerful.

I am powerful and I see the challenges set before me as my test.
I am powerful and I aspire to hold my power more and more.

This is my focus and this is my aspiration.

I remember the truth of who I am.

I am powerful.
I am wise.

I am infinite and
I am eternal.

I seek to embody my power more and more.
I seek to connect with my infinite nature more and more.

I am powerful.
I am powerful.

I am one with all of life.
I step into my infinite nature now.

I step into the great light that I am.
I step into my light and shine.
I step into my light and shine bright like the sun.

I am powerful.
I am powerful.
I am powerful.

Remember to see the challenges set before you as your test and aspire to step into your power. Be gentle with yourself when you fall, but resolve to begin your practice again, this time with greater wisdom and clarity. Eventually all shall be successful.

Have a good weekend everyone.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Rejection

Below is a short message I received for a client during a private TRCB phone session about welcoming rejection and opening to a new chapter.

“Rejection is the universe telling you that you are going in the wrong direction. Let go now of your resistance to this, and free yourself up for your next new adventure. Open to the new. Open to new work opportunities. Open to new friendships. Open to new connections. Open to new adventures. Open to new opportunities for growth, learning, service and enjoyment. Open to new life. Let go of the old and open to the new. Know that there is always a next chapter.”

Have a good weekend everyone and be sure to join us Sunday night for our free tele class.

The divine plan unfolds perfectly.

I was thinking about a relationship of mine that could use some healing and I began to work with the affirmation: The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.

I enjoy working with this affirmation because I feel that it assists in aligning my personal will with the will of spirit and helps facilitate healing for all concerned.

I wrote a short affirmation for myself and thought i’d share it here in case you too have a relationship in your life that could use some healing.

The divine plan unfolds perfectly.

The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.
The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.

I surrender this relationship into the hands of spirit.
May thy will be done.

The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.
The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.

May that which is for the highest good for all concerned unfold perfectly now.
May the divine plan unfold perfectly now.

The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.
The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.

I surrender my little will and merge with the divine will.
I align with a spiritual force of life that has everyone’s best interest at heart.

May thy will be done.
May thy will be done.

The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.
The divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly.

Take a moment and bring to mind a relationship that could use some healing. Affirm that the divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly now. Do not dictate what that divine plan should be. Instead surrender personal will and align with a force of life that has everyone’s best interest at heart. At the deepest level there is consensus. At the deepest level what is right for one is right for the whole. If you are connected with your spirit and the people that you are involved with are connected to their deepest selves then there will be in agreement about what is best for the whole.

And so connect now with the depth that lies within you and align with a force of life that has everyone’s best interest at heart. Do not swim against the current. Instead simply ask that what is best for all concerned unfolds perfectly now.

Surrender deeply now. Surrender to a force of life that knows what is best for all concerned. Do your best to align with this force. Let go of your own personal will and simply ask that the divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly. Affirm this frequently and see what transpires.

For some this will lead to greater expression and communication and for others it will lead to less expression and communication. For some that will lead to a deepening of a relationship and for others that will lead to a shedding of old skins so that new growth and life can happen.

Affirm that the divine plan for this relationship unfolds perfectly and then allow yourself to be guided in right action.
Work with this affirmation frequently and be aware how, over time, this influences the quality of your relationships.

~Hayley Mermelstein

She believed that she could, and so, she did.

Hello Everyone,

I was doing a guided meditation through my chakras this morning, and as I was meditating, I realized that my throat chakra was my weakest center. The throat center is the center for expression, confidence, power, growth and learning. When I asked myself why my throat center felt so weak, I instantly knew the answer. I knew that it was because I needed to work on my confidence.

I’m told I come across as confident, but actually it is something I struggle with in one way or another almost every day. Sometimes I feel incredibly confident, and yet at other times thoughts of insecurity creep in. And so, after meditating, I went for a walk and as I was walking a poem/meditation started coming through me. I talked it into my handy dandy phone (blog post writing is so much easier now that I can talk them into my phone) and now can read it daily to help strengthen my throat center.

I thought I’d share this affirmation/poem here with all of you, because no matter where we are at, we can all work on strengthening our chakras and stepping into our full potential more and more.

For more information about the chakras, keep an eye out for my new book: Balance Your Chakras: The TRCB Book of Affirmations, that will be coming out this fall (date to be announced shortly).

She believed she could, so she did.

I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.

I embody confidence.
I embody confidence.

I feel confident.
I feel confident.

Every cell of my body is filled with confidence.
Every cell of my body radiates confidence.

My entire being is filled with confidence.

She believed that she could and so she did.
She believed that she could and so she did.

I know that I can accomplish what I’ve come to accomplish.
I know I can fulfill my destiny.

I know that I do not work alone.
I know that I am part of a powerful team.

I know that powerful beings of light are all around me.
I know that these powerful beings of light are working with me to manifest what I need.

She believed that she could and so she did.
She believed that she could and so she did.

I do not work alone.
I know that I attract helpers in the physical world and in the spiritual world.

I know I can accomplish what I’ve come here to accomplish.
I know I can make the contribution that I’ve come to make.

I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.

I embody confidence.
I embody confidence.

I feel confident.
I feel confident.

Every cell of my body is filled with confidence.
Every cell of my body radiates confidence.

My confidence draws to me all the help that I need both from both the physical world and the spiritual world.

And so for today, I embody confidence.
And so for today, I allow this to be my practice.

And for today I step into my full confidence and my full potential.

I am confident.
I am confident.

I am confident.
I am confident.

~Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

A Plate of Compassion All Around

Who am I to judge you?
Things aren’t always what they appear.

For today, I am filled with humility.
For today, I acknowledge that I too have made mistakes.

Some days I am embarrassed by these mistakes.
Some days I cringe when I think of something I did or said.

But these mistakes have given me a deep compassion for the human condition.

We are all flawed.
And at the same time we all have greatness within us.

And when I am tempted to judge another, I quietly reflect on all the times I’ve been out of balance too, all the times I’ve misread the energy, and instead of judgement I offer compassion.

I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is learning.
Everyone is growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is suffering.
Everyone has some burden they are carrying.

And so when I can find this place within me,
I offer compassion.

Some days this comes easy and other days its a challenge.
But for today, this compassion bubbles up within me.

We are all learning.
We are all growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a place of compassion all around.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Cultivating Greater Strength with TRCB

Hello Everyone and welcome to Tong Ren Chakra Balancing (TRCB) Tuesday.

This week’s video will focus on using TRCB to cultivate greater strength. Dealing with our daily challenges and the general challenges of being on the planet requires that we connect with the strength that lies within the core of our being. Our spirit, our true self, that spark of divinity that lies within is strong, powerful and confident. For today, we will be balancing the chakras and reconnecting with the strength of our spirit so that we can more easily access this strength so that we can have the fortitude that we need to face our challenges.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I trust that spirit is working with me to manifest what I need.

Third eye: I am a wise decision maker.

Throat: I am powerful and powerful beings of light are all around me.

Heart: I am love and love is all around me.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with depth.

Identity: I am both sensitive and strong.

Base: I am spirit. I am eternal. I am infinite. I am safe.

And there you have it. Your seven TRCB affirmations for the week. Take time this week to listen to the video and to connect with the strength of your spirit. Take time to connect with the strength that lies at the core of your being. There is a place of strength that lies within each one of us and as we learn to connect with this place of strength we can begin to bring this strength forward more and more.

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I accept you. (Part 2)

Hello everyone and welcome to TRCB (Tong Ren Chakra Balancing) Tuesday where each week I will share with you a healing video for the purpose of helping all of us to balance our chakras and bring forward our best selves in every day life.

This week we will be focusing on accepting others. We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses and learning to accept these strengths and weaknesses is one of the keys to our actualization and to our finding the peace that we desire. When we are offended by every little thing, when we hold a grudge, when we are thrown out of balance by the imbalances of others we give our power away.

And so for today lets cultivate an attitude of acceptance so that we can step into our power, so that we can step into our love, our radiance, our compassion, and our strength. It takes inner strength and power to not be thrown by the imbalances that are all around us. It is easy to lose our balance. It takes fortitude to develop our own inner strength enough to be able to stay steady a mist the everyday imbalances that we encounter. And so for today, lets work on finding our own inner strength, our own inner power and our own inner fortitude so that we are not so easily offended and instead can offer others the compassion and acceptance that is so needed in our world.

Acceptance, of course, is just the first step. Once we have accepted we can ask: Given what is, what am I to do? Sometimes in acceptance we move closer and sometimes in acceptance we move further away. Sometimes in acceptance we express ourselves and sometimes we remain silent. Sometimes we say yes and sometimes we say no. The individual attunement will vary. But the first step is to accept ourselves and accept others and step into our full power, our full strength, our full balance, and our full potential in every day life.

And so seek to be the best that you can be. Do not worry about how others are behaving. At the end of your life, it is your behaviour that you will need to account for. And so focus on yourself. And focusing on becoming the best version of you. It is easy to loose focus and focus on “them”, to focus on what they are doing or not doing, how they have misbehaved. Instead of focusing on the imbalances of others learn to work on bringing your best self forward.

How do you best respond to the imbalances that you encounter every day? Can you step into your own inner power enough to not be so thrown by the imbalances around you. Can you find your own inner strength enough to not take offense? Can you access your compassion so that you can be a true being of light and healing upon the earth?

It is here that your work lies. Again do not be so concerned about the imbalances of others. Instead seek to bring your best self forward more and more and you shall be successful.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am one with all of life.

Third eye: I understand.

Throat: I am filled with the power of spirit. I am a powerful being of light.

Heart: I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar Plexus: I accept you. I accept you. I accept you.

Identity: I am both sensitive and strong.

Base: I am filled with humility. I am enough as I am.

And there you have it. You seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. You may want to pick one affirmations and make it your affirmation for the day or the week. Work with these affirmations frequently and allow them to assist you in bringing your best self forward more and more.

See the challenges in the week ahead as a test in your ability to hold your balance and bring your best self forward. Do not be discouraged if you do not pass all of your tests. We are here on the earth learning to bring our best self forward and this is a process. Allow yourself the space to learn and grow and give others the space they need to learn and grow. Little by lithe as you continue to practice and aspire to find this inner balance and strength you will bring more of your true self forward.

Practice daily for no effort is in vain. Practice daily and model a new way of being. Practice daily and be a force of healing and light upon the earth. Accept yourself, accept others and step into your true power, true strength, true wisdom, true understand, true acceptance, and true love. Practice daily and bring your best self forward more and more.

Have a great week.

Hayley Mermelstein

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Embracing Your Unlimited Nature

Hello Everyone,

Welcome to TRCB (Tong Ren Chakra Balancing) Tuesday where each week I will share with you a healing video to further assist us all in balancing our chakras and bringing our best self forward in everyday life.

In this weeks video we will explore opening to our unlimited nature while also honoring our human limitations. It will be an opportunity for us all to expand our idea of what is possible while also acknowledging our inherent limitations of time, energy, and money. The irony is that when you connect with your unlimited nature and see yourself as unlimited while simultaneously embracing your limitations what you are capable of actually expands.

This weeks affirmations are as follows:

Crown: I am open and expanded. I expand my idea of what is possible. When I expand my idea of what is possible, I help to bring it in.

Third eye: I am filled with unlimited wisdom.

Throat: I am filled with unlimited power.

Heart: I am filled with unlimited love.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with unlimited acceptance.

Identity: I am filled with unlimited creativity.

Base: I am filled with unlimited humility. I honor my human limitations of time, energy, and money.

Take a moment now to feel your unlimited nature while simultaneously honoring and valuing your human limitations of time, energy and money. In this way you will come into a deeper balance and alignment, where you both acknowledge and honor your human limitations while also remembering your true unlimited nature.

Be sure to watch the video to experience this integration directly for yourself!

We have many videos now on the blog and on my youtube channel. I recommend watching one video daily in order to assist in balancing your chakras and helping you to bring your best self forward in everyday life.

Also be sure to “like” us on facebook if you would like to receive daily words of inspiration to further assist in this process.

Have a great week and see you again next Tuesday!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein