Messenger of compassion

We all come to bring a message. Whether its a message of peace or love or courage or strength or compassion or wisdom. Part of my message, I believe, is compassion. I am a major work in progress to be sure. But still, I aspire.

i was reflecting on this today and wrote this short passage. I thought I’d share it here because compassion is a message we can all work on bringing to this troubled planet that we inhabit together.

I am a messenger of compassion.

I am a being of great compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion.

I am generous in my compassion.
I give compassion freely.

You do not have to earn my compassion.
For I am a being of compassion and I have come to offer compassion to all.

Compassion is my message.
Compassion is why I am here.

I am here to offer compassion.

I am here to learn how to extend compassion to all.
I am here to be a beacon of compassion.

And so I am learning, and test after test I am learning.

Sometimes I pass the test and sometimes I fail, but all the while, I am learning to become the being of great compassion that I am.

And so I rise up and I start again.

And I endeavor to offer the compassion that I have come to offer.
I endeavor to be the being of compassion that I am.

I endeavor to offer my compassion to all, whether I am understood or not understood. Whether I am treated kindly or treated poorly. Whether I agree or disagree.

None of this matters now.

Its’ all simply a test to assist me in delivering more perfectly the message I’ve come to deliver.

I am a being of great compassion.
I am a being of great compassion.

I’ve come to extend compassion to all and I will deliver it as best as I can.

I am a messenger of compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion and I offer my compassion to the world today.

I am a messenger of compassion.
I am a messenger of compassion and I extend my compassion to all.

We all have a message to bring. Some are here to bring a message of compassion. Some are here to bring a message of love. Some are here to bring a message of strength and courage and power and confidence. Some are here to bring a message of wholeness. We each have a message to share and we each have something to learn. Ask today: What is my message? What have I come to share and to offer? We can offer our message wherever we are and with whatever we are doing.

If you are not sure what your message is pick a spiritual principle that you would like to cultivate, such as love or compassion or wholeness or balance or wisdom or confidence or strength or sensitivity and begin the process of cultivating it and offering it today. We can all have more than one message too.

Offer your message today and be gentle with yourself because you will be tested and you will pass some tests and fail others. All tests serve to strengthen your ability to offer your message regardless of what is going on around you.

Rise up in your strength and seek to offer that which you have come to offer. Rise up and bring the message that you were born to deliver. Rise up and offer what you have come to offer.

Be patient with yourself for you will do this imperfectly. Be patient with yourself because this is a process. Be patient with yourself for you will have to dig deep to learn consistency.

Be patient with yourself but be disciplined.

As you learn to offer your message more consistently your whole life will evolve and transform.

Ask today: what is my message and seek to offer that which you came to offer and you shall be satisfied.

~Hayley Mermelstein

I am here to love you, not judge you.

Sometimes a phrase starts going through my head repeatedly. When that starts to happen, I know that a blog post or a guided meditation, or something wants to be written.

While going through my day earlier in the week, the phrase: I am here to learn to love you, not judge you, kept going through my head. On one level, I knew that this phrase was meant for me. There are several people in my life I am working on learning to love instead of judge. Also, I’m working on forgiving myself for my own mistakes as well.

On the other hand, i also feel like I am meant to share what I am learning, in the event that it may be beneficial for more than just myself.

It is in this vein, that I share this meditation that poured through me during a short break in between clients the other day.

I am here to learn to love you, not judge you.

It is easy to be judgmental. It takes no skill. Anyone and everyone can be judgemental, and I’m sure we have all had our moments, days, weeks or even months of seemingly justified judgementalness.

And who can blame us, when the people around us are so hopelessly impossible sometimes?

And yet, the fact remains, that we didn’t come here to be judgemental, we came to learn to love.

What? I can hear you shout out (and I hear my own brain protest as well), How can I love this and this, and that and that? It is all so difficult. And people are just so unreasonable sometimes.

And yet, no one said it would be easy and no one said it wouldn’t test every fiber of our being.

But part of why we came to the earth was to learn to love that which we deem unlovable.

Part of why we came to the earth was to learn to love the imbalances, to learn to love the wounds, both in ourselves and others and so:

Step into your love now.
Step into your power.
Step into your balance.

Learn to love that which you deem unlovable.

You do not need to invite all to dinner or even interact with everyone, but part of why you have come is to learn to keep your heart open, to learn to love that which you deem unlovable.

Start with yourself now.

Direct loving kindness toward yourself.

Affirm:

I love you.
I forgive you.
I appreciate you.
I value you.

Send love and kindness to yourself, as you remember that the earth is a school and that you came to learn and grow.

Yes, you have made many mistakes, just like the rest of us. And yes, some of those mistakes have had far reaching ramifications. And yet we must remember that there is a divine interconnection between what we’ve come to learn and what those around you have come to learn.

Train yourself to look for the learning. What are you learning? What are those around you learning?

After you see the lessons, affirm once again:

I love you.
I forgive you.
I appreciate you.
I value you.

You are learning and growing and everyone around you is learning and growing.

Mistakes are a natural and necessary part of the process.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Wipe the slate clean.

Give yourself the gift of forgiveness this holiday season and give others the gift of your forgiveness this holiday season.

Let yourself and everyone else off the hook and choose to offer love and kindness and forgiveness. Do this for yourself, for your own health for your own development and achievement.

It is easy to judge yourself and others.

Strive for a higher, more refined way of being. Aspire to learn to love and appreciate yourself and to love and appreciate others. Aspire to learn to love the wounds in yourself and the wounds in others.

Again, you do not need to befriend everyone and there will those who you should most definitely love from afar, but aspire to grow in your capacity to love now.

This time, bring your awareness to someone in your life and this time direct your attention towards them as you affirm:

I love you.
I appreciate you.
I value you.
I forgive you.

You are learning something from this person. Perhaps you are learning to say yes and perhaps you are learning to say no. Perhaps you are learning to walk away and perhaps you are learning to stay despite the imbalances. Perhaps you are learning not to be so naive, perhaps you are learning to be more discerning in your interactions. Perhaps you are learning to give more, and perhaps you are learning to give less.

The lessons and attunments will vary. What will stay consistent is that you are learning to love.

And so embrace this lesson now and begin to hold yourself to a higher standard. Begin to embrace that you are learning to love. Be kind toward yourself in this process because this skill is not always easy to develop and will take much repetition and practice.

If it were easy, everyone would do it.

And so look to make a little progress everyday in your ability to love. Perhaps aspire to one percent better per day and little by little your heart chakra will open, and your ability to replace your judgementalness with love will grow and expand.

Direct your attention out into the world now and offer your love to all of humanity.

Affirm:

I love you.
I forgive you.
I value you.
I appreciate you.

We are all learning and growing. No one is exempt. And for today, I choose love. And for today I choose forgiveness. And for today I choose appreciation for the opportunity to practice and learn my own lessons.

I am here to learn how to love. I am here to learn how to love the wounds and the imbalances both in myself and others.

And I am also here to learn to love and welcome the greatness that lies within myself and others as well.

I am here to learn to love it all, the good, the bad, the ugly.

Affirm once again:

I love you.
I forgive you.
I value you.
I appreciate you.

We all have greatness within us and we all are wounded and learning and growing.

I did not come here to judge you. Anyone can do that.
I came here to learn to love you, wounds and all.

I love you.
I forgive you.
I value you.
I appreciate you.

We are all learning and growing. No one is exempt.

I love the greatness that lies with you.
I love the magnificience that you are.

And I love the wounded place with in you, for I know that you are learning and growing.

I do not add salt to your wounds. I am learning to add love.

We are all learning and we are all growing and I will do this imperfectly much of the time. But I will aspire to improve and grow in my capacity to bring love to the earth.

I love you.
I forgive you.
I value you.
I appreciate you.

We all have greatness within us and we all and human and and learning and growing and wounded.

I am learning to love all of it.

I love you.
I forgive you.
I value you.
I appreciate you.

And so it is.
And so it is.
And so it is.

~Have a good holiday weekend, everyone. And take some time this weekend to give yourself and those around you the gift of your forgiveness and love. Be aware of how this impacts your health and wellbeing and your life.

~The world needs our light and our love, may we all evolve in our ability to be a bright light on the planet.

~And of courses, couple your love with discernment. Sometimes its best to love from afar and sometimes its best to love up close. Let your heart love and your wisdom guide you in appropriate relating.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Love me, even though I can’t love you back.

I was meditating this morning and as I was just about to conclude, I heard a friend’s voice (in my mind) say to me: “Love me, even though I can’t love you back.”

This particular friend has been distant and aloof with me and it’s been a challenge to know how to be in relation to her.

And even though I’m not sure yet of what actions to take externally, her words helped me to remember to stay loving inside of myself, despite the discord that lies between us.

Her words also inspired the following blog post, that i thought I’d share with all of you.

Love me, even though I can’t love you back.

Sometimes in our lives there are people who choose not to love us or simply can’t love us (or be loving toward us), because of where they are at inside of themselves. Rather than take this personally and be offended and hurt, can we find the place in ourselves that can remain loving, even in the face of others anger or apathy or indifference or inconsiderate behaviour?

This is one of the great challenges set before each one of us, to learn to love those who can’t love us back.

In this crazy world of ours this is no easy task, and we are at best very imperfect at it. But if we are truly to open our hearts then we must aspire to love, not only those who love and approve of us, but also those who are cold, or angry, or arrogant, or aloof, or those who feel superior to us as well.

So, let this be your challenge today, to learn to keep your heart open even in the face of those who can’t love you back. This, of course, does not mean you need to put yourself in harms way, sometimes, its best to love others from afar.

Take a moment now and direct love towards someone who can’t love you back.

Affirm:

I love you.
I love you.

I value you.
I value you.

You are learning and you are growing.
Everyone is learning and everyone is growing.

I appreciate you.
I appreciate you.

I forgive you.
I forgive you.

I love you.
I love you.

Be aware of how this softens your heart. Be aware of how this shifts your energy.

Let this be your challenge today: to send love to someone who doesn’t treat you well or can’t (at this time) love you back.

As you grow in your ability to do this, your heart chakra will open and you will be able to manifest more of your best self.

After you have opened your heart you can ask: Given what is, what is the loving thing to do? You can listen deeply within and let your inner wisdom guide you in right relation.

Sometimes it is loving to love from afar and sometimes it is loving to love up close. Sometimes it is loving to say yes and sometimes it is loving to say no. Sometimes it is loving to give other people the space that they need. Sometimes it is loving to come close. Sometimes it is loving to give other people freedom to choose and not force our own will or desires on them. Sometimes its loving to value ourselves enough to walk away. Sometimes its loving to let other people just be. Sometimes its loving to ask for more. Sometimes its loving to ask for less. Sometimes its loving to challenge the status quo. Sometimes its loving to express and sometimes its loving to remain silent.

The individual attunement will vary. It is through deep listening that we will know how to best express the love that is in our hearts.

But for today, simply work on opening your heart chakra. Do this for yourself, so that you can be the best that you can be. Be aware of how this impacts your life and your manifestation.

Ask yourself:

What changes as you become a more loving person?
What percentage of your day can you stay in love?
Can you appreciate this adversary in your life for teaching you how to love in a deeper way?
What else can you appreciate about this person?
What else are you learning from this challenge?

You can simplify the affirmation I shared above by simply stating:

I love you.
I love you.
I love you.

You can silently say this to yourself and silently say it to others all day long.

Be aware of what impact this has on you and your relationships.

Some relationships may improve with this affirmation of love, and some, which are no longer appropriate for you, may find their good elsewhere. Sometimes nothing will change externally but your own internal environment will be transformed.

One thing we can say for sure, is that the affirmation, I love you, will raise your own vibration and help you to bring your best self forward more and more. Be aware of the far reaching impact this can have on your health, your relationships and on your own life as well.

Hayley Mermelstein

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