Humble and Kind

Hello Everyone,

I just got back from a folk concert last night. I went to listen to Lori Mckenna who is singer I first heard sing on the Oprah show many years ago. The highlight of the evening was a song she wrote for her children called: Humble and Kind.

(to listen to this beautiful song click here:

It’s a song, as you might guess, about staying humble and kind, and saying thank you and please, and helping the next guy or gal in line when given the opportunity.

The song made me reflect on my own life and struggles, and the developing of humility.

You see, in my twenties I had several major episodes of anxiety that really brought me to my knees. When I recovered I remembered thinking that the anxiety and the pain that came with it, had softened me and burned away some of my arrogance, (i had an arrogant side back then.)

And then in my thirties I had some health problems that once again brought me to my knees. Once again, as I recovered and healed, I remember feeling that the experience had deepened me, and deepened my understanding of the human condition.

I thought that even though I would never wish that pain on myself or anyone else for that matter, I wasn’t sorry for the experience because it deepened my compassion and removed yet another layer of my arrogance. (arrogance is a slippery thing, it can slip right in when your not paying attention).

In fact, there was even a day recently were I actually was able to look back on those painful experiences and truly appreciate that they happened because they contributed to the person I am today.

So why do I share all of this? I guess it’s to say that no matter what you are going through right now, no matter how painful, there is always a silver lining, and although you may not fully see it right yet, there may come a day when you might even feel grateful that you had the experience, because despite all the pain, it brought you a gift that you otherwise wouldn’t have received.

And sometimes the gift that is brought is compassion for the human condition and for human suffering. Sometimes the gift is the burning away of your arrogance, leaving just the soft light of your soul to shine through. Sometimes the gift is that you find out that you are stronger than you thought and sometimes the gift is that you learn to ask for help.

Whatever it is that you are learning right now, may it deepen your humility and your kindness and your compassion for the human condition.

I’ve always liked the phrase, “Be kind. For everyone has a battle that they are fighting.”

And so, we are all human and learning and at the same time we are spirit and filled with great divinity. We are filled with humility, and we all have greatness in us too. And so let your humility be the doorway to your greatness. Let you compassion help you step even deeper into who you really are.

And then when you have learned what it is that you were meant to learn from your experience, you can turn around and help the next person in line.

Have a nice Sunday.


Hayley Mermelstien

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