Learning to say no.

Hello Everyone,

Just last week a friend asked me for a favor. I was sort of in a rush at the time and not as tuned in to the moment as I might like to have been. I said yes to the favor despite the fact I really didn’t have time. ( I have a tendency to say yes sometimes before really thinking it through). Well, I won’t go into the details but my saying “yes” to this favor didn’t go so well. Let’s just say my car broke down on the way home which felt like spirit reminding me that I need to listen more deeply.

Anyway, upon finally returning home I sat and meditated and heard a message on listening deeper, saying no and seeking to serve the oneness rather than the individual.

I assume the message could help more than just myself so I thought I’d share it with all of you. I hope it helps you to feel more comfortable saying yes and saying no and assists all of us in listening more deeply to the attunement of the moment.

I’m not here to serve the individual. I am here to serve the oneness.

Its important when going through your every day life that you are clear about why you are here. You are not here to serve the individual. You are here to serve the oneness.

Many have needs. Many may think they know what you owe them or need to give to them.

If you respond to what others think they want from you, you will become drained and frustrated and resentful.

Instead, you must train yourself to listen more deeply, to listen to the words beneath the words and to listen at the spirit level.

At the spirit level, you are not concerned about pleasing the personality, at the spirit level you are concerned with doing what is truly best for all concerned.

The problem happens when you doubt yourself. You so want to be of service that you mistakenly focus on giving others what they want rather than listening deeply to your own inner knowing and having the confidence to do what you believe to be best.

You must develop greater self-confidence so that you can begin the process of saying no more often, so that you can begin the process of really listening deeply and following your own inner knowing and your own inner spirit.

Do not be so concerned about making mistakes.

Give yourself permission to truly listen within and do that which you believe is yours to do. As you practice in this way you will get better at knowing what is yours to do and what is not yours to do.

Everyone needs and if you are constantly responding to the needs of others you will not do the one thing that you came here to do.

Living in this way will mean that you will need to say no more than you are currently comfortable with, but you will grow in your ability to know what is yours to do and what is not. And so practice now going within and really listening to your own inner knowing.

Do not allow the forcefulness of others to pull you from your own inner knowing. Others may think that you owe them, or that they know what is best. But truly, only you know what is best.

And so once again, go within and learn to listen to your own inner knowing. Be more fierce about what you allow into your sphere of life. Do not allow others to push their way in or bully you into submission or to simply make you feel guilty for not meeting their needs.

No, you must be stronger. You must step into your power in a greater way.

Do not be afraid of your power or of your strength. And it’s okay to make a mistake. What is most important is that you commit on a deeper and deeper level to following the attunement of the moment.

What is most important is that you make listening to your own inner knowing a top priority. Do not think that others know better than you, for they do not.

You must practice listening within on a deeper level. You must practice saying no and not feeling guilty. You must practice having the fierceness and power to allow others to find their own way and not think that you must save them.

In your effort to save others you may drop your own pillar of light and not do the one thing that you came to do. And so commit now to listening deeply. Commit now to going within and asking your spirit what it wants. Commit now to not being bullied by the demands and needs of others. Commit to a deeper listening and a deeper commitment to spirit.

This will, in the long run, strengthen your relationships because it will reduce the resentment that you feel. And so commit to listening to spirit now. Commit to following your own inner attunement as best as you can. Commit to listening deeply and doing what is truly best at the spirit level.

At the spirit level it is sometimes best to say no, and let people find their own way. And at the spirit level it is sometimes best to say yes and lend a much needed helping hand. This will take deep listening to ascertain and is a practice.

And so begin your practice again, this time deeper. Commit to this deeper listening and you will grow in your ability to know what is yours to do and what is not. This deeper listening will be imperative if you are to carry out the tasks that are being set before you.

Listen deeply now and affirm:

I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.

I listen deeply to my own inner spirit.
I listen deeply to the whispers of spirit all around me.
I listen deeply to the words beneath the words.
I listen deeply and I know what to do.
I listen deeply and I am guided.
i listen deeply and I am wise.
I listen deeply and I do what is mine to do.
I listen deeply and I can say yes and I can say no.
I listen deeply and I do what is best for the oneness.
I listen deeply and I do not try to please the individual.
I listen deeply and I aspire to please spirit.
I listen deeply and I do what is truly best for all concerned.
I listen deeply for I know that at the spirit level there is consensus.
I listen deeply and I do what is attuned, even if it is unpleasing to others.
I listen deeply and do my best to do what is truly best for all concerned, whether it is appreciated or not.

I listen deeply and I step into my strength.
I listen deeply and I step into my confidence.
I listen deeply and I step into my knowing.
I listen deeply and I step into my wisdom.

I know that this is a process and so I am patient with myself as I learn and grow.

I listen deeply and I do what is best for all concerned.
I listen deeply and I seek to please spirit.
I listen deeply and I am devoted to the spiritual oneness.

I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.

~message received through Hayley Mermelstein

Finding Deeper Peace with TRCB

Hi there everyone,

I had a request this week to produce a video to assist with healing anxiety. There are many things that can help with anxiety such as eating well, exercise and the use of affirmations. For today’s video, we will focus on balancing the chakras to help us all hold a greater emotional balance and bring our best selves forward more and more.

Today’s chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I walk in light. I walk in light.

Third eye: I see clearly and I understand.

Throat: I am confident.

Heart: I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with simplicity.

Identity: I am steady.

Base: I am spirit. I am eternal. I am infinite. And I am safe.

And there you have it. This weeks chakra balancing affirmations. Work with these affirmations frequently through out the week to help assist you in staying calm and balanced a mist the many challenges of life. Also watch this weeks video to further assist in balancing the chakras and bringing your best self forward more and more.

Feel free to let me know in the comments below how this video impacts you.

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Have a great week.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Cultivating Freedom with TRCB

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ~Victor Frankl

Hello Everyone,

Welcome back to TRCB Tuesday. This weeks theme is FREEDOM. We we be working with the 7 energy centers to cultivated an inner feeling of freedom.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am open, expanded and free.

Third eye: I am free to choose wisely. I am free to choose the high road.

Throat: I am free to be myself.

Heart: I am free to love.

Solar Plexus: I am free to listen deeply.

Identity: I am free to say yes and I am free to say no.

Base: I am free to be disciplined.

And there you have it, your 7 TRCB affirmations for the week. Work with these affirmations through out the week and work to cultivate an inner feeling of freedom. As you feel more free inwardly you may drawn in more freedom in your external world as well.

And remember, as Victor Frankyl says: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Have a great week!

Hayley Mermelstein

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Thanksgiving Message

Step into your maturity now.

Come to expect the unexpected.

Come to expect the imbalances both in yourself and in others.

When there is fear there will also be greed, selfishness, and lack of consideration.

Do not be so surprised by this, as if it shouldn’t be this way.

It is this way, and until the fears are resolved this will continue.

It is your job to learn to love despite the imbalances.

It is your job to learn to find compassion for the selfish behavior.

It is your job to be the best you can be.

It is not your job to take their inventory.

It is your job to take the high road and do your best to navigate in difficult seas.

Rise to the occasion now.

Rise up.

Rise up.

Use your challenges as an opportunity to practice.

Use your challenges to help you become stronger in the face of adversity.

Use your challenges as a vehicle to stepping into your greatness.

Step into your greatness.

Offer love in the face of greed.

Offer kindness in the face of selfishness.

Offer compassion in the face of inconsiderateness.

This is not to say that you should tolerate unacceptable behavior, but instead use it as an opportunity to bring out the best that lies within you.

When you respond with an internal feeling of love, compassion and kindness you reaction will be diminished.

When your reaction is diminished there will be greater clarity about how to best respond.

And so step into your greatness now.

Step into your compassion.

Step into your kindness and step into you love.

Do not wait for others to go first.

Do not expect others to be kind, or loving, or compassionate just because you did go first.

Instead seek to be the best you can be and do not worry about how others are behaving.

Again, you must take your own inventory and let others attend to themselves.

Your mission is to be the best that you can be.

Allow others to find their own mission.

Step up now and offer the best that lies with in you.

In the end you will be glad that you did.

(Spending time with family and friends will, of course, give you ample opportunity to practice these principles.)

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

~Hayley Mermelstein

Cultivating Deeper Appreciation with TRCB

Hello Everyone,

I wanted to share a new healing video with you this week. In honor of Thanksgiving, todays topic is on appreciation.

Appreciation is a powerful principle that rapidly elevates your state of mind and your vibration, and can help move you to a whole new level.

Today we are going to focus on giving thanks in advance. Because your body doesn’t know the difference between a real and imagined event, when you give thanks for something that you are working to manifest, as if it is already here, you help to bring it into manifestation.

For example, if you give thanks that you are growing in your wisdom everyday, your body thinks that you are in fact growing in your wisdom everyday. This helps to bring forward the deep wisdom that lies at the core of your being. If you give thanks in advance for your increasing abundance and prosperity, again your body believes that you are growing more abundant and prosperous and begins to vibrate differently, this in turn helps to bring in greater abundance.

So for today, we are going to practice giving thanks in advance for the things that we are working on cultivating. In so doing, we are elevating our vibration, raising our frequency and beginning to put out a different vibration out into the world, this in turn impacts how we feel and how we manifest in our lives.

Try flooding yourself with a feeling of appreciation this week. Be aware of how this impacts not only how you feel but also how you manifest in your life.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I appreciate that divine favor follows me where ever I go.

Third eye: I appreciate that I am able to bring forward my inner wisdom more and more.

Throat: I appreciate that my confidence is growing everyday.

Heart: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to give and receive love.

Solar Plexus: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to accept myself and accept others.

Identity: I appreciate that I am growing in my ability to respond in a balanced way in my life.

Base: I appreciate that my disciplines are improving everyday.

And there you have it. Your seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Work with these seven affirmations and practice feeling deep appreciation for all that you’d like to manifest in your life as if its already here now.

The practice of flooding yourself with appreciation will elevate your state, change your vibration and impact how you manifest in the world.

Try this for the next seven days and watch what happens! When you find yourself getting caught in more limited states of mind experiment with “changing the channel” and turning on appreciation instead.

For additional support be sure to watch todays powerful video on appreciation!

Thank you all for your attention, for reading my emails and for your love and support through out the year. I deeply appreciate you and I deeply appreciate the opportunity to be of service.

Have a lovely Thanksgiving and a nice holiday.

May we all grow in our ability to appreciate ourselves, each other and the many opportunities for growth and service that we experience through out our day.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Opening to possibility with TRCB

Hi there everyone!

Its been a while since we’ve done a video so I wanted to share one with you today. Its a video on opening to greater possibility. When we narrow our focus too much we can become self centered and limited in our perceptions. We can also tend to focus on the worst case senarios of our lives and really freak ourselves out! In todays healing video we will focus on opening to the field of infinite possibilities and maintaining a more expanded awareness and point of view.

Here are this weeks chakra balancing affirmations:

Crown: I am open to the field of infinite possibility.

Third eye: I am open and I am wise.

Throat: I am open and I am expressive.

Heart: I am open and I am loving and I am generous.

Solar Plexus: I am open and I welcome all of life.

Identity: I am open and I stand in my convinctions.

Base: I am open and I am filled with humility.

And there you have it. Your seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Seek to experience greater openness this week while also embodying greater wisdom, clarity, expression, love, convinction and humility.

As you balance all seven chakras you will elevate your frequency and raise your vibration and positively impact your own life and the lives of others.

Have a good week.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. I am working hard to complete my TRCB book of affirmations! Stay tuned for more info.

P.S.S. I am also working on our first webinar. Stay tuned for more exciting information about that as well!

Peace

May we all find deeper peace within ourselves and in so doing, contribute to our own healing, the healing of others and the healing of our planet. ~ Hayley Mermelstein

I was meditating on feeling deeper peace within myself and deeper peace within my relationships this morning and was inspired to write a short meditation about it and share it with all of you.

Take a moment and fill yourself with a feeling of peace now. Give thanks for the peace that is filling your heart. Imagine feeling peace now. Imagine that you have a deeper feeling of peace than ever before. Imagine bringing this feeling of peace to your relationships, to your work, to your life. Fill yourself with peace today. Give thanks that you are able to hold this inner peace more and more. Give thanks that your relationships are filled with peace. Above all else, give thanks (in advance even) for the peace that resides within your heart. Be appreciative of this new found peace. Embrace it, ask for it, appreciate it. Embody peace today.

Affirm often:

I am filled with peace.
I embody peace.
I embrace peace.
I am peace.

I give thanks for the peace in my heart.
I give thanks that my ability to embody peace is growing everyday.

I am deeply peaceful.

My peace radiates out into the world and creates a vibration of peace.
My peace radiates out into the world and effects every aspect of my life.
My peace radiates out into the world and helps create a new vibration of peace on the planet.

I start with myself.
I start with peace.
I start with love.
I start with a desire for a new way of being.

Today i embody peace and I bring peace to the planet.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2014

General Balancing with TRCB

I hope that you are well and have been enjoying and benefiting from TRCB Tuesday. When I first started this project the plan was to record eight videos. I got so into it that instead I have recorded and shared 17 videos! That is 17 videos to inspire and assist all of us in bringing our best self forward more and more!

I’ve decided to take a break from TRCB Tuesday for a little while so that I can complete my second book (Balance Your Chakras, Change Your Life) and so that I can prepare to start offering live healing webinars in the late fall or early winter.

But this won’t be the last video. Instead I will send out a TRCB video on special occasions or simply when the mood hits! I may even send out a video on a Thursday or Friday (i’m really living life on the edge now!).

Anyway, I do hope that you have enjoyed the videos and I look forward to offering many new venues in which to learn more about the chakras and how to work with them so that we can all bring our best selves forward more and more.

Today’s healing video is a general chakra balancing that powerfully aligns and balances the chakras.

Be sure to watch the video here:

Today’s chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am open and expanded. I expand my idea of what is possible.

Third eye: I am a wise decision maker.

Throat: I am fully expressive.

Heart: I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar Plexus: I am deeply appreciative.

Identity: I am infinitely creative.

Base: I am filled with humility. I am enough as I am.

Enjoy today’s video and allow it to elevate your state of mind and assist you in being your best.

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Till next time!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Cultivating Greater Joy With TRCB

Welcome to TRCB Tuesday, where each week I will share with you a healing video for the purpose of releasing blockages in the chakra system. When the blockages are released all aspects of your being can come into greater alignment and you can more easily bring your best self forward more and more.

This week we are focusing on creating greater joy. (The nice thing about cultivating joy is that we can feel joy in our hearts regardless of what is going on externally.)

Take a moment now and go deep inside of yourself and fill yourself with a feeling of joy.

Fill yourself with joy by repeating the following affirmation:

I am filled with joy.
I am filled with joy.
I am filled with joy.

As you repeat this affirmation to yourself practice feeling it as well.

I am filled with joy.
I am filled with joy.
I am filled with joy.

Feel it, embody it and experience it now. Really allow yourself to be filled with a feeling of joy.

Practice radiating that joy out into the world by affirming:

I am filled with joy and I radiate my joy out into the world.
I am filled with joy and I radiate my joy out into the world.
I am filled with joy and I radiate my joy out into the world.

Feel the joy that lies within you. Connect with this joy and seek to bring it forward more and more.

We have infinite choices about the emotions that we choose to experience. Practice being more creative in the emotions that you choose to experience. Practice elevating both your thoughts and emotions this week and practice cultivating this new feeling regardless of what is going on externally. Be aware of how this affects the quality of your day.

Here are this weeks chakra balancing affirmations:

Crown: I am happy.

Third eye: I am a wise decision maker.

Throat: I am fully expressive.

Heart: I am filled with joy and I radiate my joy out into the world.

Solar Plexus: I welcome greater joy and happiness into my life.

Identity: I am creative and I am expressive.

Base: I am disciplined. I attend to my mind, body, and spirit everyday.

And there you have it. Your seven chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Work with them frequently, remembering to not only say them to yourself but really practice feeling the principles as well. As we begin to embody greater joy and happiness we will help bring more joy and happiness into our lives. In addition, focusing on joy and happiness helps to elevate our vibration and helps to heal our body as well. Let this be your focus for this week. See how much true joy you can cultivate.

Have a good week!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Staying positive with TRCB

Hello everyone and welcome to TRCB Tuesday where each week I will share with you a new chakra balancing healing video. Watching the video will assist in releasing blockages in the chakra system. When the blockages are released we can heal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and more easily bring forward the best that lies within us.

This week we are focusing on cultivating a greater positivity. When we are in a true positivity we are better able to hold the spiritual principles, principles such as: trust, wisdom, power, love, appreciation, balance, discipline and spontaneity. True positivity is different than candy coating for in a true positivity we are looking very honestly and deeply at our lives and yet still able to hold compassion and balance for what we see. This is an ongoing practice for many of us, but if we aspire to hold more positivity today than we did yesterday then little by little we will heal.

When we hold a true positivity we assist in elevating our vibration. When we elevate our vibration our body can heal and we can manifest more of our best selves. Also, when we hold a true positivity we emanate a more elevated frequency, which contributes to the healing of our planet as well. Little by little, as we each step into a more positive version of who we are we contribute both to our own healing and the healing of our planet.

Here are this weeks affirmations to assist all of us in this endeavor:

Crown: I am filled with positivity. I am a being of great positivity and light.

Third eye: I am filled with positivity. I look honestly at myself, others and all of life.

Throat: I am filled with positivity. I am a powerful being of light.

Heart: I am filled with positivity. I am a radiant being of light and love.

Solar plexus: I am filled with positivity. I deeply appreciate all that I have.

Identity: I am filled with positivity. I am emotionally balanced.

Base: I am filled with positivity. I am a being of great discipline.

And there you have it, your seven-chakra balancing affirmations for the week. Work with these affirmations this week and allow them to elevate your vibration and your point of view. Be sure to watch the video for a more powerful experience of positivity and chakra balancing as well.

Have a great week!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelsetein

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