Learning to say no.

Hello Everyone,

Just last week a friend asked me for a favor. I was sort of in a rush at the time and not as tuned in to the moment as I might like to have been. I said yes to the favor despite the fact I really didn’t have time. ( I have a tendency to say yes sometimes before really thinking it through). Well, I won’t go into the details but my saying “yes” to this favor didn’t go so well. Let’s just say my car broke down on the way home which felt like spirit reminding me that I need to listen more deeply.

Anyway, upon finally returning home I sat and meditated and heard a message on listening deeper, saying no and seeking to serve the oneness rather than the individual.

I assume the message could help more than just myself so I thought I’d share it with all of you. I hope it helps you to feel more comfortable saying yes and saying no and assists all of us in listening more deeply to the attunement of the moment.

I’m not here to serve the individual. I am here to serve the oneness.

Its important when going through your every day life that you are clear about why you are here. You are not here to serve the individual. You are here to serve the oneness.

Many have needs. Many may think they know what you owe them or need to give to them.

If you respond to what others think they want from you, you will become drained and frustrated and resentful.

Instead, you must train yourself to listen more deeply, to listen to the words beneath the words and to listen at the spirit level.

At the spirit level, you are not concerned about pleasing the personality, at the spirit level you are concerned with doing what is truly best for all concerned.

The problem happens when you doubt yourself. You so want to be of service that you mistakenly focus on giving others what they want rather than listening deeply to your own inner knowing and having the confidence to do what you believe to be best.

You must develop greater self-confidence so that you can begin the process of saying no more often, so that you can begin the process of really listening deeply and following your own inner knowing and your own inner spirit.

Do not be so concerned about making mistakes.

Give yourself permission to truly listen within and do that which you believe is yours to do. As you practice in this way you will get better at knowing what is yours to do and what is not yours to do.

Everyone needs and if you are constantly responding to the needs of others you will not do the one thing that you came here to do.

Living in this way will mean that you will need to say no more than you are currently comfortable with, but you will grow in your ability to know what is yours to do and what is not. And so practice now going within and really listening to your own inner knowing.

Do not allow the forcefulness of others to pull you from your own inner knowing. Others may think that you owe them, or that they know what is best. But truly, only you know what is best.

And so once again, go within and learn to listen to your own inner knowing. Be more fierce about what you allow into your sphere of life. Do not allow others to push their way in or bully you into submission or to simply make you feel guilty for not meeting their needs.

No, you must be stronger. You must step into your power in a greater way.

Do not be afraid of your power or of your strength. And it’s okay to make a mistake. What is most important is that you commit on a deeper and deeper level to following the attunement of the moment.

What is most important is that you make listening to your own inner knowing a top priority. Do not think that others know better than you, for they do not.

You must practice listening within on a deeper level. You must practice saying no and not feeling guilty. You must practice having the fierceness and power to allow others to find their own way and not think that you must save them.

In your effort to save others you may drop your own pillar of light and not do the one thing that you came to do. And so commit now to listening deeply. Commit now to going within and asking your spirit what it wants. Commit now to not being bullied by the demands and needs of others. Commit to a deeper listening and a deeper commitment to spirit.

This will, in the long run, strengthen your relationships because it will reduce the resentment that you feel. And so commit to listening to spirit now. Commit to following your own inner attunement as best as you can. Commit to listening deeply and doing what is truly best at the spirit level.

At the spirit level it is sometimes best to say no, and let people find their own way. And at the spirit level it is sometimes best to say yes and lend a much needed helping hand. This will take deep listening to ascertain and is a practice.

And so begin your practice again, this time deeper. Commit to this deeper listening and you will grow in your ability to know what is yours to do and what is not. This deeper listening will be imperative if you are to carry out the tasks that are being set before you.

Listen deeply now and affirm:

I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.

I listen deeply to my own inner spirit.
I listen deeply to the whispers of spirit all around me.
I listen deeply to the words beneath the words.
I listen deeply and I know what to do.
I listen deeply and I am guided.
i listen deeply and I am wise.
I listen deeply and I do what is mine to do.
I listen deeply and I can say yes and I can say no.
I listen deeply and I do what is best for the oneness.
I listen deeply and I do not try to please the individual.
I listen deeply and I aspire to please spirit.
I listen deeply and I do what is truly best for all concerned.
I listen deeply for I know that at the spirit level there is consensus.
I listen deeply and I do what is attuned, even if it is unpleasing to others.
I listen deeply and do my best to do what is truly best for all concerned, whether it is appreciated or not.

I listen deeply and I step into my strength.
I listen deeply and I step into my confidence.
I listen deeply and I step into my knowing.
I listen deeply and I step into my wisdom.

I know that this is a process and so I am patient with myself as I learn and grow.

I listen deeply and I do what is best for all concerned.
I listen deeply and I seek to please spirit.
I listen deeply and I am devoted to the spiritual oneness.

I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.

~message received through Hayley Mermelstein