All Dressed Up and No Where To Go.

Hello Everyone,

I wrote this blog post a couple of years ago and just rediscovered it recently.  I thought it would be a good time to share it with all of you.  It’s about learning to embrace rejection rather than fearing it.  And it’s about learning to see rejection as one of the ways that the universe guides us to where we need to be.

All Dressed Up and No Where To Go.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”  ~Helen Keller

 

It was a Saturday night and I was racing around getting ready to leave for the party, when the phone rang.  It was the host calling to ask me NOT to come to the gathering.  He said he didn’t think it would be my scene.

I got off the phone, feeling a little dazed by the sudden change of plans, and slowly, it began to dawn on me, “ I think I was just uninvited from this party.  It’s not that I would be uncomfortable, it’s that he didn’t want me to be there.

As I sat on the couch “all dressed up with no where to go”, I remembered the wise words of my teacher, Ellen Tadd, “Rejection is the universe telling you that you are going in the wrong direction”.  Even though there was a part of me that wanted to react, feel hurt, and feel sad, another part of me knew that this was the universe guiding me.  I’ve been taught to welcome rejection (not always an easy thing!). The words,  “Rejection is the universe telling you that you are going in the wrong direction echoed through my head.”

You see, I had felt mixed about going to this party as well. Partly because I was enjoying my time at home and partly because I wasn’t sure if this group of people was right for me anymore.  As I sat and reflected, I couldn’t help but feel the hand of spirit guiding me, confirming in a way, what I had already suspected.  The gap between where I was at and where they were had grown too wide.  It was no longer where I belonged.

I sat quietly on the couch, enjoying the quiet and feeling a little nostalgic for times past where this had been my right place in the world.  I sat alone, aware that one door of happiness had just been closed, unsure of where the next door was or when it would open.  A chapter had just ended and a new chapter yet to have begun.  I sat in the void with nothing to do but trust the next chapter of my life would unfold in its own time.

Why do I tell you all this?

I guess it’s just a reminder that rejection is not bad.  That rejection is part of how the universe guides us to where we need to be.

As I sat quietly on my couch dressed for my party, with no party to go to, I realized what I really wanted was to meet new people who resonated more with the person I’ve become rather than the person I had once been.  As I sat on the couch I quietly asked the universe to guide me to where I needed to be, to bring the right people into my life, and to show me where I belonged.  I asked the universe to guide me to my next chapter.

As I write, I hear these words:

“Always remember that rejection is the universe telling you that you are going in the wrong direction.  Remember that rejection is not bad.  Learn to welcome rejection so that you will know where you do and do not belong at this time.  Experiencing rejection will create a void in your life, which will help open your energy to the new. 

And so open to the new now:  Open to new opportunity.  Open to new people.  Open to a new chapter.  Allow rejection to be part of what guides you to where you need to be.  Do not be offended by rejection instead seek to understand.  Rejection is not personal.  It is simply the universe showing you were you need to be.  Seek to understand rather than be understood.  Seek to be gracious.  Seek to allow the universe to guide you rather than be willful.  In that way you will know where to best put your energy and your attention and your focus.  The universe is always speaking to you if you will but listen.”

In a weird way, my friend was right.  This party was no longer my scene.

And so, over the course of the following week, I surrendered, I understood, and I allowed myself to be guided.  And for now, I sit in the void between where I once was and were I will go in the future, and I sit and enjoy the quietude knowing that everything changes and that when the time is right, I will be guided to my next door of happiness.

Have a good weekend,

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

A Plate of Compassion All Around

Who am I to judge you?
Things aren’t always what they appear.

For today, I am filled with humility.
For today, I acknowledge that I too have made mistakes.

Some days I am embarrassed by these mistakes.
Some days I cringe when I think of something I did or said.

But these mistakes have given me a deep compassion for the human condition.

We are all flawed.
And at the same time we all have greatness within us.

And when I am tempted to judge another, I quietly reflect on all the times I’ve been out of balance too, all the times I’ve misread the energy, and instead of judgement I offer compassion.

I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is learning.
Everyone is growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

Everyone is suffering.
Everyone has some burden they are carrying.

And so when I can find this place within me,
I offer compassion.

Some days this comes easy and other days its a challenge.
But for today, this compassion bubbles up within me.

We are all learning.
We are all growing.

No one is exempt.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a plate of compassion all around.

I am filled with humility, and
I offer a place of compassion all around.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

Calling in Divine Intervention with TRCB

Welcome to TRCB Tuesday.

Its been a while since I’ve posted a new video and I wanted to share one with you today. Today’s topic is Calling in Divine Intervention with TRCB. In this video I will be tapping on each of the seven chakras of the Tong Ren doll and repeating a chakra balancing affirmation. The focus will be on asking for assistance in coming into a deeper balance and bringing our best self forward more and more.

Today’s chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I am open to divine intervention. I ask for divine intervention. I experience divine intervention.

Third eye: I ask for assistance in bringing the wisdom of my spirit forward.

Throat: I ask for assistance in bringing my power and confidence forward.

Heart: I ask for assistance in deepening my compassion for myself and others.

Solar Plexus: I ask for assistance in cultivating deeper acceptance of myself and others.

Identity: I ask for assistance in deepening my strength and I ask for assistance in deepening my sensitivity.

Base: I ask for assistance in deepening my disciplines of mind, body and spirit.

Take a moment now and ask for divine intervention, ask for what you need. There is a spiritual force of life that is working with all of us to manifest what we need, but this force of life does not want to interfere with free will choice and so we all need to learn to ask for assistance.

Ask that your wisdom become deeper. Ask for help in bringing forward your power and confidence. Ask for assistance in accepting yourself and in accepting others. Ask for deeper strength and deeper sensitivity. Ask for assistance in all aspects of your life. Ask for assistance as you go through your day.

Let this be your experiment this week. Experiment with asking for the assistance you need. Experiment with dialoging with a force of life greater than yourself. Experiment with seeing yourself as part o a powerful team and remembering that you never work alone.

There is a force of life that is working with you to manifest what you need and as you begin to dialogue with this force of life you will have greater access to it. And so let this be your experiment for the week to come. Ask for help. Ask for assistance, and communicate with a force of life that is greater than yourself and be aware of how this affects the quality of your week.

We don’t have to do this alone. We can call in greater support, greater wisdom, and greater opportunity. Practice this this week and see what transpires.

~Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. For more information about our TRCB group healing and meditation tele class that happens on the last Sunday of every month, please click on this link: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass/

I accept you.

Hello Everyone,

I was thinking about acceptance this weekend, and wrote a quick blog post on the matter. It is my hope that it helps all of us to accept not only ourselves, but others as well.

I accept you.

I accept you.
I accept you.
I accept you.

I accept that you have strengths.
I accept that you have weakness.
I accept that you are learning and growing.

I accept it all.

I accept you.
I accept you.
I accept you.

I accept that sometimes I understand you and
I accept that sometimes I do not.

I accept that you are brilliant and
I accept that you are also wounded in ways that are hard to understand.

I accept you, and my acceptance leads to clarity so that I know how to best proceed.

Sometimes my acceptance makes it easier to stay in relationship and sometimes my acceptance leads me to walk away.

I accept you and my acceptance leads to clarity.
When I am clear, I will know what to do.

I accept you.
I accept you.
I accept you.

Have you noticed that everyone has some crazy in them? It can be a challenging world out there and if you find one or two people whose craziness doesn’t bother you all that much you are indeed fortunate.

And what about the rest? How do you make it through this world?

Some days it seems that the only thing one can do is wrap everyone in a blanket of acceptance. What can you do but accept the wounded places in our selves and others? This, is not the same as complacency. For after we have accepted, we then get to decide how to best proceed. But practicing acceptance will calm the solar plexus chakra and allow a natural knowing to arise.

For today, practice wrapping all of your relationships in acceptance. Accept the strengths, accept the weakness, and accept the crazy. Accept it all. Allow your acceptance to calm the solar plexus. When the solar plexus is calm a natural knowing about how to best proceed will arise.

Have a nice Sunday everyone!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. We are gearing up for our next TRCB Group Healing Session (Tele class) happening the fourth Sunday in April. If you are interested in finding deeper acceptance, balancing all seven chakras, and bringing your best self forward more be sure to sign up for our next call.

To learn more you can click here: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass/

Humble and Kind

Hello Everyone,

I just got back from a folk concert last night. I went to listen to Lori Mckenna who is singer I first heard sing on the Oprah show many years ago. The highlight of the evening was a song she wrote for her children called: Humble and Kind.

(to listen to this beautiful song click here:
http://countrymusiclife.com/humble-and-kind-by-lori-mckenna-lorimckennama/).

It’s a song, as you might guess, about staying humble and kind, and saying thank you and please, and helping the next guy or gal in line when given the opportunity.

The song made me reflect on my own life and struggles, and the developing of humility.

You see, in my twenties I had several major episodes of anxiety that really brought me to my knees. When I recovered I remembered thinking that the anxiety and the pain that came with it, had softened me and burned away some of my arrogance, (i had an arrogant side back then.)

And then in my thirties I had some health problems that once again brought me to my knees. Once again, as I recovered and healed, I remember feeling that the experience had deepened me, and deepened my understanding of the human condition.

I thought that even though I would never wish that pain on myself or anyone else for that matter, I wasn’t sorry for the experience because it deepened my compassion and removed yet another layer of my arrogance. (arrogance is a slippery thing, it can slip right in when your not paying attention).

In fact, there was even a day recently were I actually was able to look back on those painful experiences and truly appreciate that they happened because they contributed to the person I am today.

So why do I share all of this? I guess it’s to say that no matter what you are going through right now, no matter how painful, there is always a silver lining, and although you may not fully see it right yet, there may come a day when you might even feel grateful that you had the experience, because despite all the pain, it brought you a gift that you otherwise wouldn’t have received.

And sometimes the gift that is brought is compassion for the human condition and for human suffering. Sometimes the gift is the burning away of your arrogance, leaving just the soft light of your soul to shine through. Sometimes the gift is that you find out that you are stronger than you thought and sometimes the gift is that you learn to ask for help.

Whatever it is that you are learning right now, may it deepen your humility and your kindness and your compassion for the human condition.

I’ve always liked the phrase, “Be kind. For everyone has a battle that they are fighting.”

And so, we are all human and learning and at the same time we are spirit and filled with great divinity. We are filled with humility, and we all have greatness in us too. And so let your humility be the doorway to your greatness. Let you compassion help you step even deeper into who you really are.

And then when you have learned what it is that you were meant to learn from your experience, you can turn around and help the next person in line.

Have a nice Sunday.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstien

P.S. As some of you know by now I am hosting my first ever Free TRCB Group Healing Teleclass. It’s going to be a great opportunity to balance your chakras and promote healing physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s also a great opportunity to be immersed in the healing energy of spirit and the healing energy that is generated when a group of people come together for the purpose of healing and transformation.

We have over 130 people signed up for the call so far, so its going to be a really powerful experience. If you’d like to join us, please click here: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass and then leave your name and email address. We will send you the information for the call 24 hours before the event.

I look forward to sharing TRCB with you in this live event.

Cultivating Greater Self Appreciation with TRCB

Hello Everyone and welcome to TRCB Tuesday,

This weeks chakra balancing treatment focuses on cultivating greater self love and self appreciation. Many of us desire greater love and appreciation from others, and yet do not even give ourselves the very appreciation we would like experience out in the world.

It is often said, that others are simply a mirror for us about the views we hold about ourselves. If this is in fact true, then it is to our advantage to learn to love and appreciate ourselves and see how this impacts what is reflected back.

And even if others are not mirrors, it still is an act of great kindness and self care to learn to cultivate love, compassion, and understanding for ourselves, so that we can better weather the inevitable ups and downs on the journey of life.

Here are this weeks affirmations:

Crown: I let go and I trust the process. I trust that life is working with me to manifest what I need.

Third eye: I am a being of great wisdom.

Throat: I am filled with the power of spirit.

Heart: I love and I appreciate myself.

Solar Plexus: I accept that I am learning and growing. I accept that I have strengths and that I have weaknesses. I accept, that I, like everyone else, am in a process of growth and evolution.

Identity: I am infinitely creative.

Base: I am filled with humility. I am enough as I am.

And there you have it, this weeks seven chakra balancing affirmations. Work with these affirmations frequently to further balance and align the chakras. Of course, watch the video as well, to further enhance the healing benefit.

You may  want to pick one affirmation and make it your affirmation for the day. Really practice embodying your chosen affirmation. For example, if your affirmation is, I am filled with the power of spirit, really practice embodying this affirmation and practice feeling as well.

Ask yourself, how would I handle this situation if I was filled with the power of spirit? How would I go through my day? How would I live my life? How would I interact in my relationships? Repeat your chosen affirmation frequently and see how this impacts your day and quality of life.

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. If you have been enjoying the affirmations and the videos be sure to register for our first FREE Tong Ren Chakra Balancing Teleclass, happening Sunday, March 29th. This is going to be a wonderful way to be immersed in healing energy and experience the power of joining together for healing and transformation.

We have over 100 people signed up for this call already and it’s going to be really powerful. A recording of the call will be sent to all participants so that you can re-listen to the call through out the month for further balancing and alignment.

To register go to www.trcbhealing.com/teleclass and put in your email address. A confirmation will be sent out to you and the phone number for the call will be sent 24 hours before the call.

I really look forward to joining with you for our collective healing and transformation!

Announcing Our TRCB TELECLASS:

Meditation Background

Hello Everyone,

I’ve got some great news! I’m finally ready to offer our first FREE Tong Ren Chakra Balancing teleclass. This teleclass will be a great way to experience the healing power of TRCB on a whole new level.

If you have enjoyed the TRCB videos, you will really enjoy the LIVE call and experience TRCB on a whole new level.

During this call you will experience greater clarity, confidence, power, compassion, love, and emotional balance. This is because TRCB assists in balancing the chakras, and when the chakras are balanced you can more easily access the best that lies within you.

Also, there is tremendous energy that comes from gathering together as a group for healing and transformation.

Be sure to join us for this call and experience the power of group energy healing for yourself!

What to expect during this TRCB teleclass:

I will begin the call with a guided meditation through the chakras, this will help all of us to come into deeper alignment and balance and give you a greater understanding of the chakras as well.

I will then do 2-3 TRCB treatments for the group.

This will further assist in balancing the chakras and helping all of us step into greater trust, wisdom, confidence, power, peace, compassion, love, balance, and discipline.

If time permits, I will also open the line for some Question and Answers.

We will conclude our group call with a brief closing meditation and the sending of light and healing energy to everyone who is signed up for this call.

This will be a wonderful opportunity to be immersed in the healing energy of spirit and the healing energy generated by a TRCB group session.

Be sure to sign up for this call so that you can experience the power of TRCB for yourself!

Also, if you have friends or family that you think would benefit from this experience feel free to forward this email to them as well. This is an open call and all are welcome.

The call we be held on Sunday March 29th at 7 p.m. E.S.T and is expected to last anywhere from 60-90 minutes.

Don’t worry if you can’t make the call, because we will be recording it, and will be sending the recording out to all who have signed up. (We will get the recording to you within seven days of the call.)

If you’d like to join us, go to: http://trcbhealing.com/teleclass
and enter your email address.

Twenty-four hours before the call you will be sent the phone number for the call.

This is going to be a very powerful and unique healing experience.

Right now this call is already half full! (i announced this event on my Facebook page a week ago and people are signing up quickly.) I expect this call to fill completely and so if you are interested in joining us, be sure to reserve your spot.

If you have any questions feel free to email me.

I truly look forward to sharing the healing power of TRCB with you on this Live event!

Sincerely,

Hayey Mermelstein,
TRCB Founder

We are spirit. We are unified by love.

Hello Everyone,

I wrote a short guided meditation this week and then realized it was a nice meditation to share for Valentines Day.

I have found it to be a really helpful meditation for healing relationships and connecting with the love that exists beneath the surface regardless of external appearances.

Hope that it is healing for you as well.

We are unified by love.

We are spirit.
We are one.
We are unified by love.

Take a moment now and feel the vibration of the words. Feel the energy. Repeat this affirmation to yourself and allow the words to shift your energy. How does it feel to remember that we are one and that we are unified by love?

Bring to mind now, someone that you easily feel love for. Remember that you are both spirit, that you are one and unified by love.

Affirm:

We are spirit.
We are one.
We are unified by love.

Feel this deeply in your being. How does this rememberance impact your relationship?

Now, this time bring to mind a relationship that challenges you, where perhaps you have forgotten that you are both spirit and unified by love.

Affirm:

We are spirit.
We are one.
We are unified by love.

Feel the force of love running between you and others despite appearances to the contrary. Remember who you are. Remember who they are. You are spirit. They are spirit. You are one and unified by love.

Allow the rememberance of who you are to act as a healing force in this relationship. What shifts as you remember who you are and that you are unified in love? How does this change your feelings and your actions?

Allow this affirmation to act as a healing agent in your relationships. Allow the simple rememberance of who you are and that love unifies to sooth your soul and shift your energetic frequency around your relationships.

Remember who you. Remember why you have come.
You have come to love, to share, to grow, to learn, to serve.

Remember who you are and seek to bring as much love to the world as you can.

Do not confuse this with tolerating poor behavior. You can still decide to leave a relationship, but you can leave knowing that at your core you are unified by love.

Affirm:

I am spirit.
You are spirit.

We are one.
We are unified by love.

Feel your unity, you love, your connection with all of life. Remember who you are and why you are here. You are here to share love.

Share your love now. Allow your heart to be open and to feel the inherent love that is all around you.

I am spirit.
You are spirit.

We are one.
We are unified by love.

Feel your love now and allow the rememberance of who you are and why you are here to be a healing agent in all of your relationships.

We are spirit.
We are one.
We are unified by love.

Remember. Remember. Remember who you are and why you are here. See the force of love running between you and all of your relationships despite appearances to the contrary. Allow this to shift and change the energetic frequencies between you and others. Be aware of how this impacts all of your relationships.

~Happy Valentines Day~

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

Cultivating Greater Strength with TRCB

Hello Everyone and welcome to Tong Ren Chakra Balancing (TRCB) Tuesday.

This week’s video will focus on using TRCB to cultivate greater strength. Dealing with our daily challenges and the general challenges of being on the planet requires that we connect with the strength that lies within the core of our being. Our spirit, our true self, that spark of divinity that lies within is strong, powerful and confident. For today, we will be balancing the chakras and reconnecting with the strength of our spirit so that we can more easily access this strength so that we can have the fortitude that we need to face our challenges.

This weeks chakra balancing affirmations are:

Crown: I trust that spirit is working with me to manifest what I need.

Third eye: I am a wise decision maker.

Throat: I am powerful and powerful beings of light are all around me.

Heart: I am love and love is all around me.

Solar Plexus: I am filled with depth.

Identity: I am both sensitive and strong.

Base: I am spirit. I am eternal. I am infinite. I am safe.

And there you have it. Your seven TRCB affirmations for the week. Take time this week to listen to the video and to connect with the strength of your spirit. Take time to connect with the strength that lies at the core of your being. There is a place of strength that lies within each one of us and as we learn to connect with this place of strength we can begin to bring this strength forward more and more.

Have a good week everyone.

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Learning to stand your ground and remain open.

Hello Everyone,

Just this week I was talking to a friend about a situation I was struggling with. This very well meaning friend had a strong opinion about what I needed to do…asap!

And though my friend was well meaning I realized after some reflection that I didn’t agree with her opinion. But because of the strength of her opinion, and my own insecurity about the situation I was facing, it took some work on my part to get beyond the opinions and hear my own inner voice.

I spent much of the week meditating on the situation and received the following message in one of those meditations. I thought that I’d share it here with all of you, in case you too need some assistance getting past all the opinions that are out there, and connecting instead with your own inner wisdom and knowing.

Learning to stand in your own convictions.

Opinions are everywhere. Everyone’s got an opinion, they are a dime a dozen.

There will be voices all around you that seek to distract you. There will be voices all around you that mean well but are incorrect. There will be people who are sure that they are right about what you must do, but who are wrong. And there will those who speak timidly and whose depth of opinion is accurate but who lack the inner conviction to make their words heard.

In the end you must go deep within and listen to your own inner promptings. You must go deep within and do what you think is best.

And so go deep within and desire to seek your own counsel.

You have become too dependent on the opinion of others.

Go within and do what your spirit guides you to do. Let others share their opinions, but in the end you must be your own authority.

Everyone thinks they know what it is best. Everyone has an opinion. But opinions are easy. You are the one who must live with the consequences of your actions. You are the one who must live with the decisions that you make. It’s easy to have an opinion when it’s not your life. Its easy to have an opinion when its not you who has to live with the consequences of that opinion.

So go deep within now and listen deeply within so that you will know what is yours to do and what is not yours to do.

There are so many opinions and if you are overly affected by the opinions of others you will not be able to do what is yours to do. There will always be those who dislike your work. There will always be those who look with a critical eye or have nothing constructive to say. There will always be those who mean well but still shout out their bad advice despite their best intentions.

Go deep within now. Listen to your own inner voice. Listen to your own guides. Listen to the whispers of spirit all around you. All of life is guiding you.

Stand in your own convictions now.

Affirm:

I stand in my convictions.
I stand in my convictions.
I stand in my convictions.

See what it feels like to stand in your convictions. Feel the strength. Feel the confidence. Feel the clarity.

Stand in your convictions and allow your life to unfold.

Do not allow yourself to be unduly influenced by the opinions of others. Instead seek your own counsel. This is the lesson being set before you.

Become a more independent thinker.

Affirm:

I seek my own counsel.
I seek my own counsel.
I seek my own counsel.

In the end it is you that will have to live with the consequences of your decisions and so it is you that must decide how to be.

Do not give your power away to others.

Claim your power now.

Stand up.
Stand up.
Stand up.

Have the courage to stand in your convictions even if all those around you disapprove.

Stand in your convictions and remain open to the learning process knowing that your thoughts, feelings and beliefs will evolve and grow.

Stand in your conviction now and go forward with an attitude of openness and deep listening, attuning as best you can to the moment.

If you are in conviction alone, you will become too rigid.

If you are just in openness you will be a leaf in the wind.

And so combine the two now, stand in your convictions and maintain the openness needed to learn, grow, and evolve.

You can always find someone to support your belief and you can always find someone to tell you, you are wrong.

Listen deeply instead. Keep your own counsel. Stand in your convictions and maintain an openness so that continued growth and learning can occur.

Seek to be as open as you can and as full of conviction as you can.

Do not be afraid to be open and do not be afraid to stand in your conviction. Both are needed for a life of balance.

Affirm:

I am open.
I am open.
I am open.

I am open to learning.
I am open to growing.
I am open to evolving my current state of mind.

I am open.
I am open.
I am open.

And affirm:

I stand in my conviction.
I stand in my conviction.
I stand in my conviction.

I hold my point of view.
I express my opinions.
I say what is mine to say.
I stand my ground.

Affirm:

I am balanced.

I am both open and I stand in my convictions.

I am open to the thoughts and opinions of others but in the end I seek my own counsel.

I am not overly affected by the opinions of others.

I listen deeply to my own inner wisdom.

I am an independent thinker.

I am learning to listen within.

I am learning to listen to my guides.

I am learning to listen to the spiritual forces that are all around me.

I am learning to listen to myself and my deepest knowing.

Practice now going within, listening deeply, and following your own inner guidance. In this way you will learn how to seek your own counsel and how to stand in your own convictions, while simultaneously remaining open to growth, learning, and the evolutionary process of life.

Hayley Mermelstein
c.2015

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