I was listening to a young woman speak about how she was always striving for something just out of reach: more money, more love, more beauty, more weight loss etc…etc.. She decided for a while to stop all the striving and just see herself as already there.  She decided to stop the what I want is just out of reach tape and just embody and feel what she hoped to feel in the future, as if it was here now.

This mirrored much of what I have been learning about lately, where you adopt the frequency of what you want to achieve as if it where here now.

For example, if you want to have more wealth you would carry the vibration of a wealthy person and allow wealth to be drawn to you.  If you desired more love, you would carry the vibration of a person who was already loved and see what shows up differently when you show up differently.

(I know this sounds a little crazy, but just bear with me here….)

The basic philosophy is that it is hard to create from a place of lack.  If you feel like there is never enough love, it’s hard to create a life filled with love.  If you always feel you don’t have enough money, it’s hard to actually generate a life of abundance.  The philosophy is in a nut shell, change your vibration and see what shows up differently. Or to put it another way, nothing changes until you change.  Or to put it a third way, one of the definitions of insanity is to do the same thing (or repeat the same thoughts) day after day and expect things to show up differently.

Now I’m not entirely sure if this philosophy is accurate or not but what I do know for sure is that it is not very fun, or expansive, or life affirming to walk around all day with a feeling of lack, i.e. not enough money, not enough love, not enough weight loss, not enough fun, etc…etc..

What would it be like to adopt a feeling of enough and just feel thankful in advance?  What might change if we stopped running the there is not enough tape?  What might change if we elevated our vibration, changed our frequency and radiated a new electromagnetic field out into the universe.  What might change, if we stopped running the same old tapes in our mind and had some new thoughts for a change?

It is in this vein, that I wrote Already loved.  You may want to read it slowly and embody the statements as if they are already here now.  You may want to pick one of two statements and practice going through the day embodying a new energy.  For example:  You could go through the day embodying the feeling of a wealthy woman or go through the day as if all your needs were already meet or go through the day as if your life was filled with love.

Let this be a fun experiment.  What shows up differently, when you show up differently?

No one needs to know about this experiment, by the way.  It can just be your own subtle shift in energy and personal experiment with life.

Already loved.

I am already loved.
I am already cared about.
I am already surrounded by friends.
I am already surrounded by the love of my life.

All my needs are already met.

I am already beautiful.
I am already the perfect weight.
I am already sexy and attractive.

All my needs are already met.

I am already filled with great devotion.
I am already of great service in the world.
I am already offering my full contribution.

All my needs are already met.

I am already very wealthy.
I am already very abundant.
I am already wildly successful.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already seen.
I am already valued.
I am already cared about.

All my needs are already met.

I am already having great travel experiences.
I am already having great adventures.

I am already living a life of adventure and fun.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already in great shape physically.
I am already working out on a regular basis.
I am already enjoying my body.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already in excellent health.
I am already feeling really well in my body.
I am already radiating wellness.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already loving myself.
I am already taking really good care of myself.
I am already appreciating myself.

All of my needs are already met.

I am already well.
I am already whole.
I am already abundant.
I am already confident.
I am already powerful.
I am already strong.
I am already humble.
I am already compassionate.
I am already loving.
I am already wise.
I am already deep.
I am already creative.
I am already in high demand.
I am already well able.
I am already capable.
I am already very satisfied.

All of my needs are already met.
All of my needs are already met.
All of my needs are already met.

Walk to your car as if all of your needs are already met.
Go to work as if you already are a wealthy man or women.
Go through your day as if you are already wildly loved in just the way you want to be loved.
Go through the day today as if your needs are already met.

Be thankful.
Be appreciative.
Be relieved.

Embody it as if it is already here now.

Let this be your experiment with life.

Do if for an hour, a day, a week or even a year.
See what shows up differently, when you show up differently.

Radiate a new electromagnetic signature out into the field.
See what changes when you change.

I’ll be practicing along beside you.
Or perhaps,  I am already there.

Hayley Mermelstein

A teacher of mine has been talking lately about how he is embodying the attitude: All my needs are met. It’s an experiment of sorts. He is examing what changes when he embodies a new attitude, a new state of mind.

Many of us, myself included, carry a fair amount of limited attitudes: attitudes (based in lack) such as: No one understands me. My needs don’t matter. There is never enough, etc..etc.. What affects do these states of mind have on our life? In what ways are they influencing how things show up in our lives?

There is a theory, that nothing changes until we change. So if we want things to start to show up differently in our lives, we have to begin to embody a new attitude and a new way of being. In other words, if we want things to change, we have to show up differently.

We tend to approach change from the opposite angle. We want things in the outer world to show up differently, so that we can feel differently inside of ourselves.

For today, you may want to experiment with changing and evolving your inner state first and then be aware of how things begin to show up differently in your life.

Though this may sound simple, at times it can require a great deal of focus, for these old tapes that we play are well grooved into our mind and psyche. And yet still, the fact remands, that if we want to grow and evolve we ultimately need to upgrade these tapes.

And so you may want to pick a limited attitude that you want to evolve and change and begin the process of embodying a new attitude. Do this as an experiment. What shows up differently when you show up differently? What changes when you change?

Rather than wait for external circumstances to change so that you can feel better, see what happens when you begin to embody a new state of mind first and see what reconfigures on your behalf.

I’m still working on these principles and learning how to change my state ahead of the external event. For now I’ll be working on shifting from a feeling of lack to a feeling of all my needs are met and seeing what shows up differently when I show up differently. It will be a work in progress for sure.

I thought I’d leave you with a short affirmation/meditation that I wrote on embodying the attitude of: All my needs are met in case you too would also like to upgrade your thinking and feeling in this regard.

All my needs are meet.

Take a moment now and take a deep breath.

Allow your attention to go inward, going deeper and deeper inside of yourself.

Repeat the affirmation:

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

Feel the vibration of the words.

Allow the vibration to wash over you.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

All my needs are met.

Feel it.

Embody it.

Shift your vibration now.

Imagine what it would be like to really feel as if all of your needs were met.

Embody it as if it were here now.

Change your energy.

Radiate this new frequency out into the world.

Allow this frequency to influence how things show up for you rather than waiting for the external world to provide you what you need so that you can feel a certain way.

Change your energy first and see how things begin to show up differently.

Begin to feel gratitude in your heart. Give thanks as if it is already here now (because, of course, gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership!)

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all that I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that all that I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that divine synchronicities are happening everyday.

Thank you spirit that miracles are happening all around me.

Thank you spirit that love comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that abundance comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that loving people fill my world.

Thank you spirit that new opportunities are pouring into my life.

Thank you spirit that all those that I can assist and help are irresistably drawn to me now.

Thank you spirit that my world contribution is growing.

Thank you spirit that my service is expanding.

Thank you spirit that abundance is pouring in.

Thank you spirit that love is all around me.

Thank you spirit that everything I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that everything I need comes to me with ease.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Embody this now.

Raise your energy.

Raise your vibration.

Radiate the feeling that all my needs are met out into the world.

Radiate a new frequency out into the universe.

How would it feel if all of your needs were met?

Embody that feeling now.

Radiate that feeling now.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Feel it.

Embody it.

Radiate it.

Feel it as if it is here now.

Embody it as if it is here now.

Radiate it as if it is here now.

Raise your vibration.

Raise your frequency.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Thank you spirit that all of my needs are met.

Pause frequently through out your day today to raise your energy, to change your vibration and radiate a new frequency out into the universe. Be aware of what changes when you change. Allow this to be your great experiment with life.

You’ve done it the old way for most of your life (waiting for something outside of you to change so that you could feel differently). Experiment today with changing your frequency first and seeing what shows up differently.

You can do this in a sitting meditation. You can practice as you exercise, as you go for a walk, as you stand in line at the bank, when you are on hold on the phone, when you are waiting for a friend.

Use the pauses in your day to raise your vibration and change your frequency.

Again ,let this be your grand experiment with life.

I will be experimenting with you and look forward to seeing what transpires.

~Hayley Mermelstein

I was walking on a beach in Cancun with 900 other classmates, headphones on, doing my walking meditation when suddenly the guided meditation that I was listening to stopped working.  I froze for a moment unsure of what to do or how to proceed.

Suddenly, a workshop volunteer appeared and offered to help with my phone and meditation.  Within minutes he got it working again and I could hear the guided meditation.  I was flooded with appreciation for this volunteer and was expressing it profusely.

He turned to me and said, “ I am totally happy to help, love is my meditation.:

His words reverberated in my head.

Love is my meditation.

What would it be like to make love my meditation, I wondered?  Here I am on a 7-day meditation retreat, could I go home and make love my mediation?  I felt inspired by the challenge I was thinking about implementing.

Fast forward six month later.

I have plans with a friend but circumstances change and I unexpectedly need to cancel.  She is upset and disappointed with me….again.

I begin to feel guilty, misunderstood and resentful.  Can’t she see that I have needs too?  Can’t she see that I’m not just here to serve her?  Can’t she see that she holds me to a higher standard than she holds herself?

Stop.

I catch myself.

I’m feeling like a victim.  Running the poor me, no one understands me tape.

What if love really was my meditation, like, right now.

I’m driving as I have this thought and so right there and then as I’m turning right at the red light I start meditating on love as I drive (with eyes open of course!)

Love.
Love.
Love.

Love is my meditation.

I say to myself.  Allowing myself to feel the vibration of the words.

Love.
Love.
Love.

But it’s not fair, she has a double standard.  She holds me to a higher standard than she holds herself, my analytical mind retorts.

Love is my meditation; I shoot back at my brain that desperately wants to run its familiar tapes.

Love.
Love.
Love.

Feel it.
Embody it.

(I say to myself.)

Love is my mediation.
Love is my meditation.

And so I drive along this way for another minute or two. Overcoming the voices that want me to be a victim, misunderstood, and alone, and meditating instead on love.

I don’t’ wait till I get home.  I don’t wait until I’m in a formal meditation.  I just keep repeating, feeling, and embodying the mantra:

Love.
Love.
Love.

And slowly my heart begins to open again and I am feeling love and a new thought enters my head (In my now more elevated state my mind is more coherent and I am able to hear guidance)and I hear a male voice say to me:  You are modeling self-care, something she knows nothing about.

And suddenly everything changes.  I am no longer hurt.  I am no longer feeling misunderstood   I am no longer feeling resentful.

Suddenly I see what is so obvious.

My friend doesn’t know how to take care of herself and so she gets resentful and upset when I model self-care.  If I can stay steady, then I model a new way of being for her and subtly give her permission to take care of herself too.

If I get upset and hurt at her lack of understanding of me, I muddy the waters and we both get caught in a cycle of frustration and reactivity.

She may hear the message I’m sending now, or it may take years or even life times to sink in.  But now  rather than feeling misunderstood I feel like a role model.   Instead of feeling hurt and victimized, I feel compassion for my friend who works herself to the bone and spends her life meeting the needs of others without any thought or consideration of her own needs.   I am flooded with true love and understanding.

Life gives us many opportunities within a day to practice love as our meditation.  In fact, perhaps its better to start cultivating the feeling of love before the need even arises, so that we are more prepared for the tests that life will inevitability throw our way.

The theory is that when you can maintain an elevated state, such as love, for an extended period of time, your heart comes into greater balance and creates something called heart coherence.  When your heart becomes coherent it sends a clear signal to your brain which causes the brain to become coherent.  When your heart and brain are coherent, you become coherent.

When you find yourself in these more balanced states, your health can improve, you mind can settle and you can gain access to greater wisdom and clarity, and decision making can become easier.

So practice love as your meditation today and practice achieving greater coherence in your heart and brain and see what miracles unfold in your body, mind and life.

I’ll be practicing right along with you, doing the work that is challenging to do  and yet can pay such high dividends.

And If you live in New England, have a nice snow day!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

P.S. After writing this blog, I also realized that my friend is also a teacher for me.  She is teaching me to not be such a people pleaser and do my best to listen to guidance rather than try to please those around me.  Its an ongoing lesson and experiment in trial and error for sure.

I was reading a book called The Untethered Soul some time ago and early in the book the author had you personify the voice in your head.  In other words, he had you imagine that the voice in your head was your inner roommate.  He wanted you to listen to how this inner roommate is talking to you.  He pointed out that inevitably you realize that your inner roommate is trying to kill you and that if such a person actually existed you would quickly eliminate them from your life.

Recently, I was listening to some of the things that my inner roommate was saying to me, and I too decided that, in fact, my inner roommate was trying to kill me.

So I wrote a letter to myself, the kind that I would want to receive from a loving friend or parent.

I thought I’d share the letter with all of you, in case you too have an inner roommate that is trying to do you in.

We must all learn to overcome the voices in our head that are trying to sabotage us our efforts and rise up into our own power and strength.

This is not an easy task and in the words of a teacher of mine, if this was easy, everyone would do it.

And yet, still, the task remains: To replace the violent inner roommate who is trying to keep us small (it feels safer that way) with a wonderful inner cheerleader who supports our expansion and growth.

Here is my love letter from the divine.

I hope it softens the voices in your head and allows you to go forward with a little more strength and confidence today.

Read frequently for it takes some time to retrain the voices in our head.

Tell yourself what you long to hear.

And remember, in the words of Vincent Van Gogh:

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Love letter from the divine.

I love you.
I love you.

You can do this.

I love you.
I love you.

You are powerful.

I love you.
I love you.

You are beautiful.

I love you.
I love you.

I believe in you.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.

I love you.
I love you.

You got this.

I love you.
I love you.

Rise up.

I love you.
I love you.

You are capable.

I love you.
I love you.

You are strong.

I love you.
I love you.

You are a genius.

I love you.
I love you.

You are creative.

I love you.
I love you.

Open to receive.

I love you.
I love you.

You are magnificient.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop scaring yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

You are never alone.

I love you.
I love you.

Powerful beings of light are all around you.

I love you.
I love you.

All of life is conspiring in your favor.

I love you.
I love you.

All of life is working with you to manifest what you need.

I love you.
I love you.

One touch of divine favor changes everything.

I love you.
I love you.

Expand your idea of what you are capable of.

I love you.
I love you.

You can bring expansion into your life.

I love you.
I love you.

You are more than enough.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop playing small.

I love you.
I love you.

The divine is everywhere.

I love you.
I love you.

You are surrounded in light.

I love you.
I love you.

Let us work with you to manifest what you need.

I love you.
I love you.

You are supported.

I love you.
I love you.

Devote yourself to service.

I love you.
I love you.

We are walking you home.

I love you.
I love you.

Be kinder to yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

Stop scaring yourself.

I love you.
I love you.

You can do this.
You can do this.

I love you.
I love you.

You deserve goodness.
You deserve goodness.

Open to receive.
Open to receive.

Be strong.
Be powerful.
Be confident.

And remember that you are never alone.

You got this.
We believe in you.

I love you.
I love you.
I love you.

~Hayley Mermelstein

Have a good week everyone, and if you live locally feel free to join us for our live group healing on Monday the 14th or join us on Thursday nights for our wonderful meditation group.  We would love to see you!

Group Healing January 14th:

Our next group healing will be Monday January 14 from 7-8:30 at 800 Main Street, Amherst Ma. (middle door in the front of the building.)  The fee is $15.00.

This is a wonderful evening of healing, community, laughter, enjoyment and elevated states of consciousness.

Come for yourself, come to contribute to the healing of others, come to raise your vibration and the vibration of the planet.

Little by little, we rise up, raise our vibration, elevate our state and contribute to the healing of ourselves, our community, and our world.

Be part of the revolution.

Together we create a light that brings healing to ourselves, our family and friends, our community and our world.

Please join us!

Sincerely,

Hayley Mermelstein

I was meditating this morning and I heard a teachers voice in my head and he said, “If you want the uncommon, you must become uncommon.”

What did he mean by that, you may ask?

He meant if you want to have new and unusual experiences in your life you have to live life  differently than the average person.

You have to learn to give while everyone else is taking.

You have to learn to love while everyone else if judging.

You have to learn to listen while everyone else if talking.

You have to learn to be selfless while everyone else is being selfish.

You have to learn to stay calm while everyone else is reacting.

You have to learn to look honestly while everyone else is avoiding.

These are not easy tasks, and yet it is what is asked of us. We are asked to model a new way of being and to be willing to be a beacon of hope and light  in a world filled with darkness. The challenge of this is sometimes we must stand alone for a while until other like minded people can find their way to us.

But for now be willing to stand alone. Be willing to model a new way. Be willing to take the road less traveled. Be willing to be uncommon.

Practice offering love even in the face of judgementalness or unkindness. Practice giving while others are taking. Practice listening while others are talking. Practice being selfless while others are being selfish. Practice holding a new standard for yourself, even if you are doing it alone.

See what shows up differently in your life when you show up differently.

As always, be wise and discerning as you navigate new terrain.

And most importantly, remember if you want the uncommon, you must become uncommon.

~Hayley Mermelstein