Give yourself what you seek from others.

I-value-myself-II’ve been thinking a lot this week about the power of loving and forgiving ourselves. So often, we look to others for love, forgiveness, appreciation, and acceptance. What if instead of looking to others for these qualities we focused instead on giving them to ourselves? What if as we treated ourselves better, this impacted how others treated us? What if everyone out there is simply a mirror of how we treat ourselves?

For this week focus on being kinder to yourself. Focus on forgiving yourself, loving yourself, valuing yourself and accepting yourself.

To assist us all with this endeavor, I wrote a chakra balancing sequence that you can repeat to yourself. (I like to start my day with a Tong Ren Chakra Balancing sequence.)

If you have a Tong Ren doll and hammer you can tap on the chakras of the doll as you repeat the following affirmations. If you don’t have a doll and hammer, than simply repeat the following affirmations to yourself:

Tong Ren Chakra Balancing sequence:

Crown: I am special and we are all special.

Third Eye: I am a wise old soul and I step into my wisdom now.

Throat: I value myself.

Heart: I forgive myself. I love myself. I appreciate myself.

Solar Plexus: I accept myself completely.

Identity: I am whole and complete with in myself.

Base: I am spirit, therefore, I am safe.

Take a moment now and really take this in. Take a moment to really appreciate yourself. Take a moment to forgive yourself. Take a moment to remember that we are all learning and growing and that we all make mistakes. Take a moment to accept your strengths and weaknesses. Take a moment to value yourself.

Anytime an issue arises this week within yourself or In the world around you, take it as a cue and a reminder to love, value, appreciate, accept and forgive yourself. Practice seeing everything out there as an invitation for greater self love and self healing. Be aware of how this impacts your world.

So often, we look to others to love and appreciate us. And while external validation is always nice, its even better if we can learn to give ourselves the love and kindness that we seek.

What healing could happen in your body this week if you really forgave yourself for everything?

What transformation could occur is you really valued and appreciated yourself?

What would change if you finally accepted what seemed unacceptable?

What opportunities could open if we all learned to love ourselves more completely?

These are big challenges that we can all work on together.

For a short cut, simply pick one of the above affirmations and repeat it to yourself through out your day.

For example, if you are working on self love you could simply repeat: I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.

If you are looking for greater forgiveness you could repeat: I forgive myself. I forgive myself. I forgive myself.

If you desire greater self-acceptance, you could affirm: I accept myself completely. I accept myself completely. I accept myself completely.

Repeat what ever affirmation you choose frequently through out your day. For it is through repetition and consistency that we begin to change and elevate the way we think and feel about ourselves and others.

Have a good week everyone!

Also, if you’d like greater support, feel free to join us on our free Tong Ren Chakra Balancing group healing that is happening this Sunday, October 25th at 7 p.m. E.T. The number for the call is: 413-259-8048. We will be focusing on cultivating greater self love and acceptance. By joining together as a group we can heal and transform in powerful ways. I look forward on working on our collective healing together!

~Hayley Mermelstein