I took a stand with a friend a few days ago who was trying to talk me into doing something I didn’t want to do. And although I was clear in the moment I found myself feeling guilty afterwards. Deep down, I knew the stand that I took was appropriate but the caregiver in me still has trouble saying no sometimes. As a way to alleviate my guilt I began to search for an affirmation that would help bring me back to balance. I went through each of the chakras as a way to methodically begin my search. I started with the crown chakra and repeated: I serve the oneness. Nice affirmation I say to myself, but I can feel that it’s not releasing my turmoil. I move to the third eye: I am wise. Well that is nice too, but no go. Still feeling out of balance, I then move to the throat chakra, I am filled with confidence. And there it is. I feel my energy shift and suddenly I see that my issue is a confidence issue. When I affirmed confidence I very quickly began to feel better and I also became clear on where my work resided.
And so for today, lets all work on our throat chakra and cultivating confidence. The throat chakra is the center for confidence, expression, power, self eestem, growth and learning.* As you work on cultivating confidence you help to strengthen the throat chakra.
And so lets begin with the affirmation:
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am confident that I am spirit.
I am confident that I am good.
I am confident that I am learning.
I am confident that by being true to myself, I serve everyone.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
“And so let go now of the need to be right or wrong and simply sit in the confidence of your being. You are spirit and you are good. You are spirit and you are learning and you are growing. There is a place of great confidence that lies within you. To access this confidence you can simply relax into that part of you that is already confident.
Your spirit, your true self, your enlightened self is confident. Your spirit is wise. Your spirit is powerful. Relax now into your true identity. Relax into your true confident nature. Remember who you are. Remember who you are. You are a being of great light and you deserve to be treated well. You are a being of great light and you are here to take care of yourself. You are a being of great light and you are here to be of service to yourself and others as well. Sometimes you serve best by saying a firm no. And so do not feel guilty for saying no. Many need to learn appropriate behavior. When you continually reward and condone inappropriate behavior you strengthen the weakness in others. When you put your foot down you not only show respect for yourself you also demonstrate to others what will and won’t be tolerated. Do not be afraid of being firm. Sometimes the people you are dealing with are like children who will push the boundries whenever possible. It does not serve to allow them to get away with pushing. And so learn to become comfortable saying no. Be firm and be gentle for all are learning.”
And so step into your confidence now and affirm daily:
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
“Feel the confidence that lies within you. Feel the confidence of your spirit. Again, do not be afraid to be firm. Do not be afraid to say no. Sometimes the no is what is needed. Sometimes we serve the oneness by saying yes and sometimes we serve the oneness by saying no. Do not let the response of others dictate your actions. You may at times do something that is completely appropriate and those involved will become angry or upset, just because they are angry does not mean that you did anything wrong. Allow your own inner spirit to guide you in appropriate action. Look for approval from spirit not from others. Others often have hidden agendas and wounds that block their ability to see clearly. And so be the one who listens to spirit. Aspire to listen deeply and let go of your need for approval. Allow your confidence to be very separate from whether you receive approval or not. For approval is always fleeting. One moment you’ve got it and the next moment it is gone. Seek the approval of spirit whose love for you is consistent and who is always guiding you on your path of growth and learning.”
Feel the confidence of your spirit now. Affirm often:
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
Allow this to be your affirmation for the day. Be aware how you feel as you fill yourself with confidence. Be confident that you are spirit. Be confident that there is a place of greatness that lies within you. Be confident that you are learning and growing and be confident that you are never alone.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
As you step into your confidence greater clarity will follow. Often we try to get clear so that we can feel confident. Try working it in reverse today. Step into your true confidence. Step into the confidence of your spirit and greater wisdom and clarity will be the bi product. As you step into your confidence you create a light and a surety. This light and surety will then connect you to the natural wisdom that lies within. So step into confidence first and allow wisdom and clarity to follow. Let this be your experiment for today. Embody confidence and see what happens.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
I am filled with confidence.
If this meditation touches you in some way please feel free to leave a comment. It is helpful for me to hear how it impacts you and may inspire others as well!
*Chakra definitions based on the work of Ellen Tadd, author of The Wisdom of the Chakras, 2010.